How to say 'I love you' first (without freaking out your partner)
So I told my boyfriend I loved him for the first time and he got really weird after that. Why does he think that saying I love you means "Lets get married" and a major commitment? Not simply, I love you, which is how I meant it.
Asking the RIGHT question
Hi Chiara! Great question.In fact, I love it! You know why?
Most people ask the question, “When should you say I love you in a relationship?” Or even, “Who should say I lo...
Collagen Holds Your Body Together
Collagen is the glue that holds your body together
After water, it is the most common substance in your body. It’s mainly found in your muscles, bones, skin and tendons, but collagen is also found in your blood vessels, digestive tract, heart, eyes, gallbladder, kidneys and bladder.
Your collagen levels go down as you get older. Collagen production in the body slows around age 20 and after age 20, only one percent of collagen is produced in the skin each year. Other factors, l...
Why men pull away (and how to get him back!)
Why did he pull away and how do I get him back?
This is THE most common question I get asked. And no wonder! For women who are single and dating to women who have been married for decades, this remains one of the biggest mysteries and sources of stress in a relationship.
But it doesn’t have to! I’d like to help.
Fill out this quick survey so I can serve you in the most effective way.
With love, Lauren
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The Many Benefits of Berberine
What Is Berberine?
Berberine is a bioactive compound that can be extracted from a number of different plants. Technically, it belongs to a class of compounds called alkaloids. It has a yellow color and has often been used as a dye by ancient cultures.
Berberine has a long history of use in traditional Chinese medicine for various ailments.
Berberine has been tested in hundred of different studies over the past 50 years and modern science has confirmed that it has impressive ben...
How to get rid of his 'bad habits' and live together in bliss.
I love your blogs. They’ve helped me so much. My question is: my boyfriend moved in with me about two months ago. Both of us have been living on our own for more than 10 years, and for me, I get upset when I see his bad-living-together habits creeping into my space. How do I keep it at a minimum without making living with me miserable for him? Thank you Lauren for your advice!! Xxoo.
Great question. I remember when I moved in with my p...
Serrapeptase Is A Powerful Enzyme That Reduces Pain
Serrapeptase, orSerratio Peptidase,is a proteolytic enzyme, meaning it has the ability to chop up and digest proteins. This makes it helpful for reducing inflammation and mucus in the body. In fact, when this enzyme is isolated and coated in the form of a tablet, it can act as an anti-inflammatory, similar to aspirin, ibuprofen and other nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory drugs (NASIDs).
Serrapeptase is used for painful conditions including back pain, osteoarthritis, rheumatoid arthritis, osteo...
Your guide to relationships without 'labels'
I've been involved with someone for about 6 months and when I say involved we are not boyfriend/girlfriend but we spend a good amount of time together and we are having sex. She's a full time student and doesn’t have a lot of free time. I'm just working right now so I have more free time than her. Lately, with finals coming up and school being crucial right now, I haven't seen her in almost 3 weeks. I'm fine with time apart, totally fine, as long as I k...
Why men don't give reassurance (and how to get some in 3 easy steps!)
When my boyfriend and I get into a fight he remains withdrawn for the rest of the day and isn’t as affectionate as he usually is. I can’t help but worry I’ve ruined things and he’s having doubts about us.
I feel desperate for reassurance that we’ll be okay.I ask him to say something nice to make me feel better. He tells me he loves me and we’ll be fine, but can I trust that what he’s saying is truly how he feels? He still seems so ...
What 'Leave me alone' ACTUALLY means in a relationship.
“Leave me alone!” doesn’t mean
what you think it means.
When it comes to a man, the words “Leave me alone,” mean one thing only. Leave him the heck alone or face the fire-breathing dragon.
No dance steps.
It means exactly what it says.
But when it comes to a woman, this phrase is slightly more nuanced and can mean more than one thing.
(It’s not fair but it’s true.)
This leaves most...
Staying Happy With A Healthy Microbiome
What is a Microbiome?
The human microbiome is a complex ecosystem made up of of bacteria, fungi, viruses, and protozoa living on your skin and in your mouth, nose, throat, lungs, stomach and intestines. It varies from person to person based on diet, health history, geographic location, and even ancestry.
This human microbiome consists of more than 100 trillion microbes that must be properly balanced and cared for to stay healthy. In fact, For every one of your cells, there are 10 mi...
Why Valentine's Day is just like going to the Dentist.
Why is Valentine’s Day like going to the Dentist? Why would I imply such a detestable thing when I’m a lover of love and I teach relationships for a living?
I have NOTHING against Valentine’s Day. I LOVE Valentine's Day! But maybe not for the reasons you think. I don’t love Valentine’s Day because it’s a day where we practice romance and buy things for each other and say, “I love you.”
I love Valentine's D...
The 3-part inevitable decline of a relationship without me-time
I love spending time with you
…just not ALL the time.
Somewhere along the way, we were taught that, “love means never letting go.”
This is a beautiful sentiment when you’re talking about sticking together as a couple through ups and downs.
This becomes a very detrimental sentiment when we take it as literally never letting our partner’s go and being together all the time.
Being together all the time isn’t love. It’s a...
Relationship Book Bundle Giveaway!
Happy New Year! Let 2016 be YOUR year of Love.
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Want to commit more fully to your partner?
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How couples can get through the holidays stress free.
This blog was originally posted 12/5/14. It has been edited and updated.
Holidays: Ideal vs. Reality
In theory this time of year is supposed to be fun, jolly, warm and relaxing. Surrounding the fireplace sipping on hot totties. Laughing around the dinner table because someone accidently put salt in the apple pie instead of sugar (this actually happened – shout out to my Aunt!)
In theory, holidays are a time to gather with the people you love most and show each other how...
Do you ever feel needy? Your problem might be the solution.
My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 ½ years. Everything is great until he pulls away, he either wants to be alone or he wants to spend time with his friends. Every time he pulls away, I get super needy. I tell him I need him to stay home, I need him to listen to me, I need his attention.
I know I should let him to go out and be a “cool” girlfriend but I can’t help it. I just go into demanding crying mode and I need him to care more. He gets...
He cheated on me. How can I move on and make this relationship work?
The blog was originally posted in August 2013 as “How to turn a cheater into a loyal and monogamous partner.” The video is vintage Ask Lauren and the blog itself has been edited and updated.
I’ve been married for 25 years. In the past 15 years my husband has had two affairs. He says he is glad I saved our marriage and that he wants to make this work, but how do I know his words and feelings are genuine? How do I know that he truly loves me and that he&...
3 love hacks to SAVE your long distance relationship.
I want to understand my boyfriend and save my long distance relationship. I’m not sure if I want to be with him, because sometimes I think I can’t live without him, and sometimes I don’t want to deal with his ignorant behavior. He doesn’t even text me or call me. When I ask him why he doesn’tpay attention to me, he says he’s busy and he forgets. Frankly, I don’t feel like I’m asking too much. I don’t want to run after him, I...
Are you a nightmare to be with and you don't even realize it?! Cuz I was.
This blog was originally posted October 24th, 2014.
Are you a nightmare to be with and you don’t even realize it?
Some of the greatest villians of all time have been two faced. Jekyll and Hyde. Norman Bates. Harvey Dent and Two Face.
Why are these characters so consistently compelling?
Because “evil” is surface scary - slasher-film scary - but a person you love and trust turning on you with an evil side?
That’s real drama. That’s horrifyin...
The SECRET to my great relationship.
Celebrating five years since I “fell on his face”
My partner, Glade, and I just got back from Napa, California where we celebrated our 5 year anniversary.
FYI - We’re not married. We celebrated the 5 out-of-this-world-amazing years since I drunkenly “fell on his face.”
Let me explain.
Six years ago we were JUST friends. We’d go hiking, we’d go out to breakfast, we were in a few musical theater shows together. We were pals. That&r...
Do Long Distance Relationships Ever Work?
Hi John -
I read your book Mars and Venus On A Date and I am hoping you can help me with my long distance dating situation.
I live in New York but I am dating a guy who lives in California. He comes to New York for 1 week each month for work. It's always an amazing week together.
This has been going on for 8 months. And we have been exclusive for the past 3 months. It's getting scary.
He grew up on the West Coast and STRONGLY does not want to move here (New York). ...