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How to get your ex back (a step-by-step guide)

Dear Lauren,

How can I reconcile withmy ex-boyfriendafterhe broke up with me? He dumped me after being together for 3 years. I’ve given him "space" for 2.5 days with no contact (no more begging or trying to change his mind). Now he sends me an email to see if I'm "ok." Do I respond or stick to some "30 day rule?" What type of contact is okay?

How do I win back my ex? And how long do I wait for him before I move on?

-Brooke


Hey Brooke...

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How to make the first move with confidence

Dear Lauren,
I’ve been developing a friendship with this cute guy for a month, whom I’m totally crushing on. At this point we are stuck in friend mode. How do I cross over? How do I get this guy to kiss me?
-Angela

Hey there Angela,

The Bridge from Friends to Lovers

Great question! People always talk about how great relationships are when they’re founded in friendship. And I totally agree. But what they fail to explain is how you’re supposed to elegantl...

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You're a real catch but here's why women aren't interested.

Dear Lauren,

I’m a good-looking guy, so I know my looks are not the problem. But every time I try talking to a girl, getting close to a girl, or try to take “dating” to the next level, it never works out. I’m a funny guy, fairly wise, very goal oriented, and I’m very social. But the bottom line is, I’m just not very good with “relationships” or dating in general. Can you help give me a clue on how to be more successful with the ladies?

&n...

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How to get real with a guy (without him shutting you out!)

Men love happy women.

But what about when you’re not happy?

What happens when you get upset and need to express negative emotions, an issue or a complaint in a relationship?

Does it increase intimacy? Or does it blow up in your face?

I want to help!!!

Fill out this quick survey so I can give you the most relevant, tailored and helpful advice.


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We had a great date! Why won't he text me back?

Hi Lauren

I went for a coffee with a guy, he said he really liked me & hoped we could meet again. That evening we were texting & he was saying I had lovely eyes, and a lovely personality. Two days later I texted him to say, “Hey, how’s your weekend?” to no reply.

I texted him the next day to say, '”I’m not sure what has gone wrong as we liked each other & agreed to meet again. Can you let me know what the problem is?” No reply.So I to...

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10 things I do daily to keep my relationship bulletproof.

Valentine's Day shouldn't be the ONE day a year
you see or make an effort toward your relationship.
Valentine's Day, as I see it, is a day to celebrate and acknowledge the solid, loving, fun, passionate and committed relationship you've thoughtfully nurtured and built over
the rest of the year.

Which is why I'm sharing with you today,
The 10 things I do daily to keep my relationship bulletproof.

Because Grand Gestures are GREAT!
But real ...

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John Gray Explains How Stress Affects Our Relationships

John Gray explains how stress affects our personal health and our closest relationships. Kelowna, BC Canada. November 29, 2011

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John Gray Talks About Health, Happiness & Romance At The Silicon Valley Health Institute

John Gray discusses how men and women think differently about health, happiness and romance. April 20, 2007

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John Gray Talks At The WOW Conference For Women

John Gray speaks to the WOW Conference about the differences between men and women at home and in the workplace. April 12, 2014.

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John Gray talks to the Commonwealth Club of San Francisco about his book Venus On Fire Mars On Ice

John Gray shares the ideas in his book, Venus On Fire Mars On Ice, to the Commonwealth Club in San Francisco, California. June 6, 2011

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John Gray Gives Health Advice with Good Day Chicago

John Gray shares the ideas in his book, Staying Focused In A Hyper World, with Good Day Chicago. December 5, 2014

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John Gray Gives Health Advice On CBS Los Angeles

John Gray shares the ideas in his book, Staying Focused In A Hyper World, with CBS Los Angeles Morning Show. September 9, 2014

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John Gray Shares Health Tips on Fox New York

John Gray shares the ideas in his book, Staying Focused In A Hyper World, with Fox New York hosts Rosanna Scotto and Greg Kelly. October 17, 2014

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John Gray talks at Google Headquarters about his book Work With Me

John Gray shares the ideas in his book, Work With Me, to Google Executives at Google Headquarters in California. November 18, 2013

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The 3-part inevitable decline of a relationship without me-time



I love spending time with you
…just not ALL the time.

Somewhere along the way, we were taught that, “love means never letting go.”

This is a beautiful sentiment when you’re talking about sticking together as a couple through ups and downs.

This becomes a very detrimental sentiment when we take it as literally never letting our partner’s go and being together all the time.

Being together all the time isn’t love. It’s a...

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What your partner REALLY wants for Christmas but will never ask for.

Holidays: Ideal vs. Reality

When I say "Christmas," I really mean Holidays. Because this has nothing to do with religion, tradition, or culture.

This is relationship specific.

In theory this time of year is supposed to be fun, jolly, warm and relaxing. Surrounding the fireplace sipping on hot toddies. Laughing around the dinner table because someone accidently put salt in the apple pie instead of sugar (this actually happened – shout out to my Aunt!)

In theory...

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The myth of the honeymoon phase and why this could change EVERYTHING.

Dear Lauren,

My boyfriend and I have been dating less than a year. It’s supposed to be the honeymoon period, but I'm already starting to have issues. He’s a nice gentle guy, but sometimes he can be too easy going, and can't decide what he wants in life. I’m a bit of a control freak, and I freak out whenever he shows his happy-go-lucky side. I can already foresee we will have many problems and issues in the future with us being so opposite. Should I stay or should I...

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Six Steps To Stop An Argument

As much as any couple may avoid fighting, the truth is, one minute you may feel great passion, and the next you’re contemplating divorce.
Many times, we think arguments occur because our partner’s behavior needs to change. Unfortunately, it’s usually not about them.

Arguing with your wife or husband is not a bad thing as long as you are not berating and hating your each other. Heated discussions can help bring issues to the surface and can encourage both parties to take ...

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Are you his number one priority or is someone else?

Dear Lauren,
My boyfriend and I been in a relationship for 9 months and see each other every weekend. The problem is that sometimes when we get an opportunity to get together on a weeknight he almost always has plans with the “guys” and blows me off. I feel like I’m second choice to his buddies and he doesn’t understand why I feel this way. Am I being unreasonable or is he?
-Katy

Hi Katy,

This particular argument, “Are friends more important than the s...

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Mars and Venus On A Date Video Series - Navigating The 5 Stages Of Dating

Are you newly single and ready to mingle?
Have you been looking for a long time and you are not sure if you will ever find your Soul Mate?

This entertaining video series will help you navigate the dating maze and find that special person you've been waiting for – without all the games and confusion.

In this first video, John Gray gives you a complete understanding of the five stages of dating -- attraction, uncertainty, exclusivity, intimacy, and engagement.

Mars and V...