Initiating sex: who's job is it really?
Within the couple, who is supposed to initiate sex?
Who initiates sex and Why
Both. Either. Everyone.
I’m going to answer your question more specifically but I want to make it very clear that this is not a one-size-fits-all response.
It’s in trying to make sex a one-size-fit’s-all concept that causes so much of the confusion, misunderstanding, shame and frustration between couples in the bedroom.
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I have a 17 year old son who currently lives with his father. His father and I had a very ugly divorce and we fought for custody. For the past two years, my son has refused to have any communication with me. Attorneys have said what is going on now is just parent alienation against me.
I should also say my son is ADHD and I have been reading your Starter Guide to Staying Focused In A Hyper World.
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Both high muscle mass or low muscle mass can inhibit brain performance. When the muscles are not nutritionally supported, they tend to rob the brain of the amino acids needed to make brain chemicals.
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The tomatoes out on my deck are ripe, my nose is permanently in a state of tender pink, my freckle collection is growing, and I just watched a fireworks display from a canoe that made me feel like I was 6 years old. This all adds up to one thing.
I don’t know about you but I’m planning on having a “Grease” worthy Summer of Love.
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Seven Power Isoflex Exercises
These are easy exercises to help kick start your metabolism, give you more energy, balance your hormones and increase your strength.
I know it is difficult to think of devoting 20 to 30 minutes to 60 minutes every day to exercise when you wake up. So start light wiht 5 minutes every morning. After a couple weeks of consistent exercise, you will start waking up even earlier and have extra time for more exercise.
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Staying Focused In A Hyper World: Natural Solutions For ADHD, Memory And Brain Performance
Staying Focused In A Hyper World: Natural Solutions For ADHD, Memory And Brain Performance is my latest book coming out September 1, 2014. Itgives you practical information to help increase brain focus, memory and restore love and passion in your relationships.
Throughout this new book, I provide an in-depth explanation of the many faces, symptoms and stages of ADHD throughout our lives. It is a bigger subject than most people realize. It is not just affecting our children but the entire fa...
Staying Focused In A Hyper World: Decreasing Stress To Increase Happiness, Passion And Vitality
Staying Focused In A Hyper World: Decreasing Stress To Increase Happiness, Passion And Vitalityexplores the many faces and stages of ADHD in your life, work and relationships andprovidethe three action steps you can do right away to develop and express your full potential.
It won't be available until later this year, but I can share a little about it now.
As a reminder, book one of the trilogy, Staying Focused In A Hyper World: Natural Solutions For ADHD, Memory And Brain Performan...
Staying Focused In A Hyper World: Super Fuel To Relax And Recharge Your Brainpower
Staying Focused In A Hyper World: Super Fuel To Relax And Recharge Your Brain Power is book three in my health series on brain health and its importance in relationships and communication. I decided to complete the series with an in-depth explanation of the understanding of thefoods, supplements and detoxification protocols that help brain performance and lasting health.
I just finished writing it and it won't be available until later this year, but I can share a little about it now.
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I’ve been hanging out with this guy for 4 months. He’s a fashion designer and writer so he’s always busy. Everything’s great when we spend time with each other. We do get intimate when we see each other and at other times we just hang out. About a month ago I asked him if we could ever be more than friends and he said he’s not going to answer that. What does that mean?!! I really like him and I don’t wanna lose him. In fact, I might be fallin...
Why men fight dirty in arguments (and how to take the high road to love!)
I made a mistake-I yelled at my husband to the point that he retreated into his cave. I followed him in there and he said, “Leave me alone!” but I kept pushing. He said some really hurtful things like he doesn’t think our relationship is working and that he doesn’t want to have kids with me because he doesn’t think I’d be a good mother. I left him a note that I’d be back in two weeks and went to my parent’s house. I thought he nee...
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In my previous blog,How To Communicate Difficult Feelings To A Loved One, I explained My Feeling Letter Technique. The Feeling Letter process is one of the best ways to release negative feelings towards someone while sharing your feelings with them in a positive way.
If you haven't viewed that blog, you should first, so you can better understand this blog post.
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Step 2: Writing The Response Letter
Once you have expressed your negative and positive feeling...
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One of the best ways to release negative feelings towards someone and then communicate your feelings in a more positive way is to write a Feeling Letter. My Feeling Letter technique is a good blueprint to help you process any negative feelings you have against someone else.
I call it the Love Letter Technique in my book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. However, it works well for any relationship that may be going through conflict, whether it's a partner, a friend or even a cowor...
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I’ve been with my man for 3 years and we fight constantly because he’s too flirty with other women. He even stays in touch with ex-girlfriends and continues very personal relationships with them, getting “good night” messages late at night with lots of “hugs and kisses.” He insists they are all just friends. I have never been a jealous partner in past relationships but I have no trust in him. I want him to understand why I don’t like hi...
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My boyfriend used to live with me and pay rent by working on the house 4 days a month. He got behind by many months and this hurt me. He doesn’t live with me anymore but recently I helped him for 4 weeks to prepare for a craft festival. I got behind with my jobs in that time but he never offered to help. He only offered to catch up with the days of work he owes me. Why cant he just help me with intent from his heart regardless of the days he owes me!? I told him I’m...
What happens to attraction when your partner's body changes
I’ve been in a deep and intimate relationship for six months. But I’m worried about her decision to lose weight to improve a long standing body image problem. A big reason I’m attracted to this girl is her glorious curvy figure and the feminine spirit that shines with it. Every time I go weak in the knees admiring her gorgeous “junk in the trunk.” I wonder if I’ll be able to feel the same if she assumes a hard and toned physique? Thinking abo...
The wrong way to have sex!
After a year of waiting to see if my ex boyfriend might change his mind about getting back together, I now know that he definitely does not want to be in a relationship with me again. He contacted me out of the blue and asked to meet for sex. I still love him, so I agreed. It was wonderful, but short. Two weeks later, he asked to see me again for sex. I obliged, convinced that he secretly still loved me. The problem is that I can’t just have sex, I need more but he told me ...
Head to head with my dad Q and A: The Mars and Venus perspectives
This week my dad (John Gray) and I teamed up with Zoosk to do some quick turn around Q and A.
No, I didn’t just make that crazy word up. If you don’t know about Zoosk, they are the #1 dating app with over 25 million members globally! WOW! You can check them out and learn more about their “behavioral matchmaking” HERE.
In addition to being a great company bringing couples together all over the world, they’ve also got an amazing Facebook community and this w...
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My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. He tells me he loves me like he’s never loved any girl, but he just can’t commit and he doesn’t know why. It’s so confusing…for both of us!
I’m very clingy, a bit insecure too, and sometimes I check his phone or try to mother him, but he says that’s not the problem. That the problem is him, and he doesn’t know when he’ll get over it. I tried ultimatums but they don&r...
Why Do I Feel Resentful Towards My Stepson?
Hi Dr. Gray,
I want to first thank you for the amazing advice you've given me throughout your books.I recently married a man that I had dated for 5 years before. He has a son from a previous relationship. His son is 7 now and lives with us full time.
But I find myself feeling resentment towards my stepson sometimes. I love my husband but I find it so difficult to love his son too. I see him as an obstacle between us and our future. We have discussed having children and both want to...