A man cannot make a woman happy. He can only make her happier.

I still believe a woman is like a wave. When she is feeling really good and loved, she will reach a peak as her self-esteem rises and falls in a wave motion. But then suddenly her mood may change and her wave crashes down. Luckily, this crash is temporary. When she reaches bottom, her wave begins to rise back up as her mood shifts towards feeling good about herself again.

A woman's ability to give and receive love in he...

The number one question I receive from men is "How do I get her back?"

My response is always the same: "How did you lose her?"

You can only get her back if you can truly reflect on what you said and did that was wrong. Because if you lost her and you love her and you want her back, you will need to learn where you failed along the way with her the first time.

Maybe you cheated on her. Maybe you yelled at her. Maybe you ignored her. Many guys break up with women...

Hi John-

My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years and things have been good. In August, he proposed to me. We were engaged for 3 months, when he suddenly decided to call it off. I thought things were going great and now the only thing he says to me is, "I don’t know what I want right now, but I know I don't want this."

I don't understand how you can propose to someone and then just end it. I feel lost and so defeated. We haven't talked in a month an...

Dear John-
My boyfriend of over a year told me last night that he needed some "me" time for himself. The first thing I asked was, "Is something wrong?" He said, "No. Nothing's wrong. I just want some 'me' time." I have read Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, so I understand the "man cave". But I want to know if, when and how I should initiate contact with him. We don't live together and one night has already passed. I'm wo...

Dear John,

I’m 31 and my husband is 35. We’ve been married 10 years this fall and we have 2 beautiful, healthy children (7 & 5) and a relationship that is stronger than ever.

The only thing lacking for me is frequency of sex. We dated for 3 years before getting married. When we were dating, we had sex all the time. Right after we got married, my husband found out he had dangerously low thyroid levels. He’s ok now and goes to his doctor regularly, takes his medicat...

Dear Lauren,
I’d love to participate in intimate moments with my special guy. However, I am inexperienced (he knows this) and my fear of pain, insecure feelings, and poor body image create confusion between us. To him I am an immature girl who simply does not want to have sex with him and he ends up sending me out of the room. Help me dispel this cloud of confusion and advise on how I can communicate my thoughts without him having to be defensive.
-Alice

Dear Alice,

This is p...

Dear Lauren,
I’d love to participate in intimate moments with my special guy. However, I am inexperienced (he knows this) and my fear of pain, insecure feelings, and poor body image create confusion between us. To him I am an immature girl who simply does not want to have sex with him and he ends up sending me out of the room. Help me dispel this cloud of confusion and advise on how I can communicate my thoughts without him having to be defensive.
-Alice

Dear Alice,

Great que...

Dear Lauren,
I met this guy (a professional surfer!) over vacation. Things got a little crazy and we ended up sleeping with each other that night. Then we met up at the bar the next night and ended up in bed again. The next morning he said, "It was very nice meeting you, I'll call you when I come to your hometown next month." He was passing through for a surfing tournament. The next month rolled by and I sent him a text, but nothing back! Did I do something wrong? How do I read g...

Dear Lauren,
I’ve had a crush on this woman for about a month. We’ve gone out several times, and we seemed to be hitting it off. Then she starts to back away. I decide its best to completely back off: no telephone, no Facebook, no texting. I still run into her because we’re in the same social circles. This makes it hurt more. Then, it comes to my attention that I’m not the only one who’s interested in this woman, there’s another. I’m the good guy, the ...

Hey Lauren
I’m worried that my boyfriend is losing interest in me. We have been together for 1.5 years. He barely has time for cuddles and rarely says, “I love you” anymore.
Our sex life is suffering as well. We’ve had sex 3 times in the last 3 months. He always says that he is tired. We are both in our early 20's so I thought our sex life would be regular and thriving. I really love him but I don’t know how to improve our relationship. Whenever I try talkin...

Hi Lauren,
I am 33 years old and I’ve never had an orgasm during intercourse. What do I need to do to have one? Do I have a disability down there?
-Maria

Hi Maria,

You do NOT have a disability. Only 30% of women orgasm from stimulation to their G-spot alone. You wouldn't know the number was that low based on T.V., movies and porn because the women we see there always orgasm from sex.

Unfortunately, media influences what men expect from women and what women expect fro...

Dear Lauren,
I married last January and when I have sex with my wife she only wants to do one position and refuses to shift to any other position. I have tried many times but she is adamant. We have similar height and weight and both of us do not have any physical problems. How can I convince her to have sex in more positions?
-Dean

Hi Dean,

I know a lot of men will relate to this question. This particular battle of the sexes is as common as the “you didn’t put the toil...

Dear Lauren,
I’m 27 and have been dating a younger guy for about a year and a half. I was married before for five years and didn’t seem to have the same type of problems that I am having in this relationship. I’m feeling very insecure, I think because I’m older than him, and seem to be relying on him and only him to make me happy. After getting out of my marriage, I lost a lot of my friends and don’t have a lot of family support and now I’m so afraid of losi...

Dear Lauren,
I have had the worst luck with guys. My past 3 boyfriends have been complete jerks. My mom says “you just have to wait” but I don’t think I can! I don’t want to be single forever. If I want a true boyfriend then I have to go for nerds but if I want a hot guy then I have to go for a player. Please help me, I’m stuck.
-Sam

Hi Sam,

I went shopping the other day trying to find the perfect date dress at a local store I love. When I checked out ...

Dear Lauren,
Now that I’m out of school I’m having a hard time meeting women. I just really don’t know how to approach them or spark a conversation. Can you give me some tips?
-Andrew

Hey Andrew,

I’d be happy to give you some tips. I wish I could offer you a fool-proof pick up line but in my opinion, it doesn’t exist. I find that a more authentic approach is the way to go. My dad says that the best way to spark a conversation is to introduce yourself. ...

Dear Lauren,
I’m 20 years old and I’m a good-looking guy, so I know my looks are not the problem. But every time I try talking to a girl, getting close to a girl, or try to take “dating” to the next level, it never works out. I’m a funny guy, fairly wise, very goal oriented, and I’m very social. But the bottom line is, I’m just not very good with “relationships” or dating in general. Can you help give me a clue on how to be more successful ...

Dear Lauren,
I’ve been developing a friendship with this totally cute guy for a month, whom I totally have a crush on. At this point we are stuck in friend mode. How do I cross over? How do I get this guy to kiss me?
-Angela

Hey Angela,

Aaaahh! This is a universally awkward situation. Every single person in the world can relate!

The good news is that he probably totally digs you, too. As cruel as this sounds, guys usually don’t spend much time with girls that they ...

Dear Lauren,

So I told my boyfriend I loved him for the first time and he got really weird after that. Why does he think that saying I love you means "Lets get married" and a major commitment? Not simply, I love you, which is how I meant it.

-Chiara


Hi Chiara,

Your man wouldn’t be the first person to misunderstand those three magic words and he won’t be the last. “I love you” is used for many types of occasions, relationships, and intentio...

Dear Lauren,

My ex-girlfriend said that she did not love me nor was she attracted to me. But we were together for six months! She made the first move on our first date, she would always initiate PDA's: kissing, touching, even arousing me in cabs, restaurants, the park... She expressed interest in sex but we never went through with it. But tell me, how is it that you can get so close to someone physically and claim to have neither attraction nor feelings? I am still nursing my broken hea...

Dear Lauren,

I am not sure whether I still love my boyfriend. We’ve been together for 4 years but have been apart for 2 years due to study. Now we are back together in the same area and I’m questioning my feelings. He’s very passionate for me but I keep complaining about the way he does everything: mama’s boy, too clean, obnoxious laugh… Does this mean the chemistry is not there anymore? We discussed this together and he says he will change but I feel it is to...