Thanks to your coaching program. 

Dear MarsVenus.com:

You guys are so amazing. I so appreciate you for being there for me.

The bottom line is that my boyfriend Rick just contacted me this morning to tell me of his love & devotion to me. Wow!! He had "rubber banded" for four weeks. I received his return with grace & happiness. I trusted that he would be back. I'm still on cloud nine. He is a gem of a man. He's so cool.

For the past couple of months every now & then I've contacted your coaches regarding his pulling away issues, which at times had me doubting myself & our future relationship. In other words it was driving me nuts not hearing from him. I never called him or ran after him. A few days went by, then a week, two weeks, then three. Last week Wendy was the coach who took my call. Through her insights, she helped me structure a very short "neutral & upbeat" e-mail to Rick which I later composed, prayed over & e-mailed to him last week. Julie, Wendy & the rest of the coaches have been right there for me during his caving & rubber banding times. It had been two days short of one month when  he contacted me today. Last week, I felt my thoughts were "swimming in the well" and were probably going stay there doing back strokes, but then I felt my confidence rise up, and out of the well I came. I just "knew" that Rick was coming back very soon, so I started preparing for his return. It's like when you know, you just know.

When I first met Rick, a strong Christian man & an airline captain, a few months ago, I gasped. I knew at that moment that I had just been introduced to my soul mate. I have been a John Gray enthusiast for a number of years reading his books & attending seminars. Through the years, I somewhat lightheartedly practiced the techniques described in his books & lectures, but never "nurtured" them into my personality until the past year & a half. I promised myself that the next romantic relationship in my life was going to be the "Gray way" 100%. I even got a couple of my girlfriends to read Dr. Gray's books & so forth. We were building a team & we jokingly call ourselves the "Gray girls." My goal has been for us to work on ourselves & take the insights into our hearts, to change in us what needed to be changed in messing up relationships in the past. Yes, my two best friends (also single) have been right here supporting me as I have them. When the urge to call Rick would start to overpower me, I'd call one of them or the Mars Venus coaching line.

I know this is simply a "hurdle" among many that Rick & I will face. This is the first time that I actually made it through the waiting period, because in past relationships I've always run after the guy to find out what had happened. In fact, I have some other girlfriends that could not believe how & why I was holding back from contacting Rick. I had to keep them from running after him on my behalf. And they did not after I sat them down & had a long talk with each of them to either get with the "Gray way," support me or go away. Then I gave them one of Dr. Gray's books to read. I said let me prove it to you that Rick is rubber banding or caving or whatever & that he will be back soon. In fact, I had just starting dating again filling up my life & keeping busy. But I kept on trusting & believing in myself. But most of all believing in my soul mate & that God has a plan for our lives together.

I just want to say thank you to all of you for caring enough to listen & coach all of us when we call in. You are awesome. Now Rick & I are at the beginning of a great relationship. Where it will take us only God knows. I have encouraged many friends to give you guys a call. It is good to know that the Mars Venus coaches are always there for us.

Love,

Carrington 

 

Thanks to your coaches.

Just a cheer of thanks to one of your coaches. Admittedly, I basically talked her ear off--probably needing reassurance and validation of what my "gut" was telling me already more than anything. By listening and validating, as well as offering her own thoughts, she was of great help. Not only did I send the email we agreed was best suited to the gentleman in question, but I had an immediate, long, heartfelt response that showed he is still "in this" with both feet...and has been dealing with serious custody issues I was unaware had arisen in the past few weeks. In the end, these were more "real life distractions" and quite necessary focus than "rubber band issues," which alone offers a sense of relief.

The coach's voice was one of reassurance and calm at a time an already relatively confident woman needed to hear exactly that. Thank her for me, if you would, and know that having a voice on the other end of a phone (in tandem with such wonderful texts) is indeed the magic combination.

Very sincerely,

Cinda in Minneapolis

 

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