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  • SoConfused
    SoConfused
    Busy or Not Interested Anymore?
    I've read and watched the videos on the MarsVenus site and for the most part, I understand what John and Lauren are saying as far as a man getting busy and the woman in their life going on the backburner. I was dating a guy for a month and a half. We went on 5 great dates, no issues at all. We were initimate twice. We've now gotten to the point that he doesn't contact me at all anymore...

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    Harmony Seeker Harmony Seeker
    - Yeah, I know how you feel SoConfused. My mind slips here and there all the time. I also get afraid that he wont come back to me too. My guy and I were never official, but we had a very strong connection between the two of us. My mind does tell me negative things and tells me to give up and move on, all the time. I listen to my heart though. My heart is still telling me to hold out longer for him a...

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  • bhonest1
    bhonest1
    is he in his cave or did he give up?
    Okkaayy, I dont know where to start simply because there's so much to share. I have been in a relationship with the father of my daughter for about6 yrs (since we were 18) and I am currently pregnant with our second child. We have gone through a lot of phases together but down the road we have both hurt each other (including cheating)and caused one another to have deep insecurities about our ...

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    bhonest1 bhonest1
    - Thanks for your advice btw.

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  • vickp
    vickp
    Mid life crisis.........or is it over ? please help
    Hi i am new and need advice, i am devastated and confused and don't know what to do, my partner and i have had 3 wonderful years together, not one cross word or argument, then he started a new job a few months ago and also turned 51, he started going out with the lads from work, most are younger and single, he started drinking (he does not drink) and staying out later and more often...you know...

    Forum posted ago
    Luci Luci
    - Dear Vickp, I can only tell you from my own experience that when and if I was as upset and as devastated as you are, then there was a reason for it. You need to trust your instincts and what your body is telling you. You are not happy. You are miserable. You are in agony emotionally at times. Trust your feelings. Tell him YOU need time and space. Tell him YOU do not know if you want this relations...

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  • Heavy2
    Heavy2
    Just not sure has she gone into her cave?
    Ok so my ex and I have been getting along really well. We have been going out together and having a heap of fun to the point that we started sleeping together again. It started out as FWB but she kept asking me if I was fine with it which I was. Then she has confessed that she loves spending time with me, has feelings for me but is confused. She has been very distance from me for the past 2 da...

    Forum posted ago
    Harmony Seeker Harmony Seeker
    - Has she responded to those ones? If there is no reaction, I don't think it's much harm, but if you think it may be a bit too much right now, maybe don't send them too often. Message me if you want to talk in private. I can do my best to help. Or we can chatt here :)

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  • janiej
    janiej
    Should I stay or should I go?
    I have been dating a guy for 9 weeks. He has a cafe business & his main assistant has been away for a month, so he was/is busy. He is the first person I have reallyliked in 5 years - we are both over 40. He is Italian (is permanent citizen in my country though), Im not Italian. He wants me to meet his friends, wants to give me house key, talks in long term about us (ie. next year we'll...)...

    Forum posted ago
    janiej janiej
    - Thank you both so much. Well, it was just so fantastic seeing him again, but we obviously have a way to go. He seemed to genuinely enjoybeing with me too but he was a little more reserved. I guess it's almost like starting from scratch again. He hasn't initiated any contact at all :( and I have contacted him twice - he responded immediately both times, so that is good. I am not sure if ...

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  • Harmony Seeker
    Harmony Seeker
    Can men get scared
    When they really start liking someone? Can that cause them to pull away into their cave to figure out their feelings? Or are they just not interested and saying that they need time as an excuse to leave you hanging onto them. Has anyone had any success with the happy updates every so often, or would the No Contact rule that I have read about where you do not contact the person for at least 1 month and they will come running back... has anyone doen that? Just curious.

    Forum posted ago
    Harmony Seeker Harmony Seeker
    - I unerstand. i do not want an online relationship ever. I really don't. I will be hanging out with whoever becomes my boyfriend. I was just asking in general. I understand where you are comeing from. thanks

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  • ddee0208
    ddee0208
    I'm so clueless, is this the Cave thing...I'm about to dump him!
    I've been with this guy about 3 months, things are great, we don't fight, he's fun, we have a great time, I let him meet my 6/7 year old boys, they love him and I haven't had really to much to complain about. I thought things were headed in a fairly serious direction. My only issue is, he's horrible about answering his cell phone...horrible. He's really busy at work duri...

    Forum posted ago
    Harmony Seeker Harmony Seeker
    - I think you are making progress and I think you are doing it in the right way. Good for you. He replied to you because he is in problem solving mode, he got to be your hero and help solve your problem. He helped to put a smile on your face and that makes him happy.

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  • Jam
    Jam
    How to react ?
    Hey everyone . I just need advice on how to react when my BF doesn't replay my Intimate messeges to him ? it is fine with him to share how he feels and expose his feelings , but when it comes to me sharing my feelings he literaally ignores me !! for example yestrday I texted him telling him how much I miss him n stuff !! He didn't Replay me at all although he went online on whats...

    Forum posted ago
    london london
    - Also, stop emotionally reacting when he is not responding as/when you want him too. This sets up a bad dynamic whereby he gets a big reward (your attention, validation) for bad behavior (ignoring you when you're vulnerable). It is a dangerous association for a man to make. Essentially, you are rewarding bad behavior. His behavior is something that should be making YOU question how valuable he is, and whether he is going to make a good boyfriend, not your own self-worth.

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  • etta
    etta
    Trusting...
    Hi. This isn't my first time here but I hope to get opinions. We are in week six. So far he has treated me pretty good I will admit. Not perfectly, but pretty good. Actually, in all of my past relationships, I will say that this is the best. So what's the problem? Me. Just to give you an example (or two, three, whatever). We call each other. We text each other. And now recently, lol,...

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  • sakkar
    sakkar
    should I wait?
    Hello. I met this great guy by pure chance (he is an acquiantance to my friend's husband, but not really friends) That was last june, and we started dating alnmost right away. He's 49 and I'm 42. He's been divorced for five years now, after a 18-year marriage, and I had broken up with my boyfriend after about 20 happy years together, but never consolidating anything. ...

    Forum posted ago
    danti112 danti112
    - Hi My name is 'Danti Bruno' just want to share my experience with the world on how i got my love back and saved my marriage... I was married for 7years with 2kids and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had fights and arguments almost every time... it got worse at a point that she filed for divorce... I tried my best to make her change her mind & stay with me ca...

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  • Vegangirl
    Vegangirl
    Is this the Uncertainty stage? Confused! Need feedback.
    Hi all, I'm new to this forum and need some objective feedback: Some background: I'm 40, divorced, with 2 kids. The guy I've been seeing is 47 never been married, no kids, but has been in a few long term relationships (4-5 years). We met through a mutual friend who set us up on a blind date, because he reached out to her and told her that he's been looking to settle down a...

    Forum posted ago
    danti112 danti112
    - Hi My name is 'Danti Bruno' just want to share my experience with the world on how i got my love back and saved my marriage... I was married for 7years with 2kids and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had fights and arguments almost every time... it got worse at a point that she filed for divorce... I tried my best to make her change her mind & stay with me ca...

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  • bellelight
    bellelight
    What should I do when my man is ignoring my communication?
    I met a 47 year old man online in January. We met for lunch right away, and really clicked. The next day, he text me, we chatted, and he said “too bad we can’t get together” and I said “who said we can’t?”, and so we had a date that night, out to dinner. We were both very attracted to each other, and talked easily. We didn’t see each other for a week aft...

    Forum posted ago
    danti112 danti112
    - Hi My name is 'Danti Bruno' just want to share my experience with the world on how i got my love back and saved my marriage... I was married for 7years with 2kids and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had fights and arguments almost every time... it got worse at a point that she filed for divorce... I tried my best to make her change her mind & stay with me ca...

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  • angeleyes153
    angeleyes153
    Uncertainty Stage of Dating
    I have a very legitimate question I would like some insights on! Now that we have some men joining us in the forum, perhaps they'd like to offer their insights to this as well. During the “Uncertainty Stage” of dating. What happens when you break a man's rubber band? The question is this: Is the relationship lost forever? Just curious......

    Forum posted ago
    danti112 danti112
    - Hi My name is 'Danti Bruno' just want to share my experience with the world on how i got my love back and saved my marriage... I was married for 7years with 2kids and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had fights and arguments almost every time... it got worse at a point that she filed for divorce... I tried my best to make her change her mind & stay with me ca...

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  • Harmony Seeker
    Harmony Seeker
    It's a positive/good sign
    if a guy reaches out to you while he's in his cave? even for just a few hours? Just need some reasurace

    Forum posted ago
    danti112 danti112
    - Hi My name is 'Danti Bruno' just want to share my experience with the world on how i got my love back and saved my marriage... I was married for 7years with 2kids and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had fights and arguments almost every time... it got worse at a point that she filed for divorce... I tried my best to make her change her mind & stay with me ca...

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  • a_davidson08@hotmail.com
    a_davidson08@hotmail.com
    Help! is he done or not.
    Me and my ex were together for a year and hlaf. We are in college and were apart all summer. I have been through alot and have trust issues. I have started fights and I was just being immature and about a month ago he ended it. We still talked and he would always say no hes done. I have now seen him everyday since saturday. We dont hang out long but we do watch some tv shows and just hang out. We ...

    Forum posted ago
    danti112 danti112
    - Hi My name is 'Danti Bruno' just want to share my experience with the world on how i got my love back and saved my marriage... I was married for 7years with 2kids and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had fights and arguments almost every time... it got worse at a point that she filed for divorce... I tried my best to make her change her mind & stay with me caus...

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  • guy55
    guy55
    Uncertainty or did she move on?
    So this girl and I (both in college) went on our first dinner date two weeks ago and I kissed her twice sort of out of the blue after lingering in hug at the end of the night. However, she said "that was awkward" after the second kiss. After this date she went from hot to cold. My friends believe she is processing everything and needs space and encourages me not to walk away, so I send h...

    Forum posted ago
    danti112 danti112
    - Hi My name is 'Danti Bruno' just want to share my experience with the world on how i got my love back and saved my marriage... I was married for 7years with 2kids and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had fights and arguments almost every time... it got worse at a point that she filed for divorce... I tried my best to make her change her mind & stay with me caus...

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  • jlh6101
    jlh6101
    What is going on with him?
    I dated a great guy for six months and on several occasions he brought up marriage. A week after the last marriage talk, he picked a fight with me for no reason and brokeup with me. He did not give me a reason. We had not been fighting and had been making plans for the future. I was completely surprised by this behavior. We did not talk for about two months but then began speaking again after I r...

    Forum posted ago
    danti112 danti112
    - Hi My name is 'Danti Bruno' just want to share my experience with the world on how i got my love back and saved my marriage... I was married for 7years with 2kids and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had fights and arguments almost every time... it got worse at a point that she filed for divorce... I tried my best to make her change her mind & stay with me caus...

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  • angeleyes153
    angeleyes153
    Stuck in a Relationship Pattern
    I feel as though I'm stuck in some sort of relationship pattern that I don't know how to get out of. I don't know what it is, or is not, that I'm doing wrong. I've dated many guys and the relationship goes nowhere. Everything between me and my man will be going great for the first month to 6 weeks then bam... relationship over. They stop calling, texting and making dates. ...

    Forum posted ago
    danti112 danti112
    - Hi My name is 'Danti Bruno' just want to share my experience with the world on how i got my love back and saved my marriage... I was married for 7years with 2kids and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had fights and arguments almost every time... it got worse at a point that she filed for divorce... I tried my best to make her change her mind & stay with me caus...

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  • sari
    sari
    Rubberband in broken hearted man
    Hi.. I need help. I have known this guy for about 2 years now, we used to work closely together because the place he worked and mine were in client-vendor relationship/partnership. We didnt get really close until about a year ago when I moved to another office which located in the same building with his office building. At that time, we went out for lunches several times n it felt like best friend...

    Forum posted ago
    danti112 danti112
    - Hi My name is 'Danti Bruno' just want to share my experience with the world on how i got my love back and saved my marriage... I was married for 7years with 2kids and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had fights and arguments almost every time... it got worse at a point that she filed for divorce... I tried my best to make her change her mind & stay with me caus...

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  • london
    london
    He's Gone and I'm Confused? Don't Care?
    So here is my story, and it has an unlikely ending for me right now. I met this guy towards the end of June. I went into his bar and right away, he showed me interest and asked me out. Which I like -- he came across as a man who knows what he wants and a man with a plan. We have been dating for approximately 5 weeks and he has been consistently coming forward. We see each other 1-3 times a week...

    Forum posted ago
    danti112 danti112
    - Hi My name is 'Danti Bruno' just want to share my experience with the world on how i got my love back and saved my marriage... I was married for 7years with 2kids and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had fights and arguments almost every time... it got worse at a point that she filed for divorce... I tried my best to make her change her mind & stay with me caus...

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