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  • Lotus
    Lotus
    Respond or not?
    In short: we had serious relationship for 9 months; future plans, I was the one. He suddenly broke up with me; brought my stuff back and said he wanted to have dinner? We had dinner; he was affectionate but also casual, didn’t say anything about us. After the dinner he would call me, never did. I was done with it, deleted his number and moved on. Recently he sent me a very short ...

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    Harmony Seeker Harmony Seeker
    - So sorry you are going throughthis. I think he's kind of testing the waters again. The three things you are feeling, I would do A until you are in a calm state of mind. I would not do B, if you still like him and want to get back together. I would suggest either writing a feeling letter to him, but NOT giving it to him because he will feel that he can no longer make you happy and give up compl...

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  • lindseylou87
    lindseylou87
    Please help...all advice welcome.
    I posted on here a couple of months ago having gone through a rough patch with my boyfriend of nearly 1 year. Brief background : we met and lived together within 6 weeks. We were talking about buying a house of our own together. We both have sons from previous relationships. He was starting a new job and we had begun to argue a lot, initiated by me because I became very jealous of the mother of hi...

    Forum posted ago
    Harmony Seeker Harmony Seeker
    - Hello Lindsey, So sorry you are going through this. You need to give him his space right now. It's something all guys go through and need. We need to be understanding of the fact they need time by themselves to figure out their feelings. I think that you arguing with him over those things made him feel like he could not be the one to make you happy. Guys want to be able to make their wom...

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  • Kelsey034
    Kelsey034
    He being confusing
    So me and my ex started talking again I really like him. Two weeks ago he asked me if we were going to start talking again and I said yes and then he said we shouldn't see other people and maybe we can turn in in to a relationship again. Well I went 2 hours away to visit him and his college last weekend and everything was fine but during the week he slowly started to slow down on talking and n...

    Forum posted ago
    Harmony Seeker Harmony Seeker
    - Kelsey, Sounds like your ex is in his cave. That is a place guys go off to, by themselves to solve their problems. He told you he was busy, so he is in problem solving mode. Unlike us women, men do not have as many connectors between the problem solving side of their brain and the emotional side of the brain. Once they are stressed or busy with things they are working through, the emotional side o...

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  • cjamessmithjr
    Mars Venus Wellness Solution For Men cjamessmithjr
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    “this stuff is amazing” - This stuff is amazing I can't believe how good i feel, It's like I'm truly awake for the first time THANK YOU DR GRAY

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  • Harmony Seeker
    Harmony Seeker
    Can men get scared
    When they really start liking someone? Can that cause them to pull away into their cave to figure out their feelings? Or are they just not interested and saying that they need time as an excuse to leave you hanging onto them. Has anyone had any success with the happy updates every so often, or would the No Contact rule that I have read about where you do not contact the person for at least 1 month and they will come running back... has anyone doen that? Just curious.

    Forum posted ago
    Heavy2 Heavy2
    - Hi newtolove, Totally agree with you, yes we are all human and we all make mistakes I do, have and in the future will. I'm not like most men, my father taught me never to go to bed angry with your parnter and never not say good night even if they are alseep. I have kissed my ex of the head many times whilst she was sleping and she always spoke to me and said good night even though she never...

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  • Sasha66851
    Sasha66851
    What am I meant to do?
    My boyfriend of over 2 years has said he needs some time to himself, which would sound like a perfectly reasonable request but here's the back ground.... We were childhood sweet hearts but for lots of different reasons we went separate ways, he married had a child I had a few relationships but nothing very serious. He was always in the back ground and I spent a good 15 years loving...

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    sbeesalyer sbeesalyer
    - A mans behavior after a breakup has and still does perplex me. When it comes to things that dont involve feelings they seemok to talk with you, but as far as getting answers as to why they treated you the way they did they shut down meaning dont respond. I tried this the other day and I could kick myself for it! I asked him why he had treated me so insignificantly for the past few months. No resp...

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  • bhonest1
    bhonest1
    Can I survive without trust?
    Hey guys! On my last post I expressed that my bf & I had a disagreement which led to us not talking for almost two weeks. Well, I had reached out to him but it wasn't in the most friendliest ways. Anyway, yest I txted him I'm sorry & he thanked me. He also said that he was sorry. I went to his house & we discussed the issue. He said he was mad & was waiting on me to apol...

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  • SoConfused
    SoConfused
    Busy or Not Interested Anymore?
    I've read and watched the videos on the MarsVenus site and for the most part, I understand what John and Lauren are saying as far as a man getting busy and the woman in their life going on the backburner. I was dating a guy for a month and a half. We went on 5 great dates, no issues at all. We were initimate twice. We've now gotten to the point that he doesn't contact me at all anymore...

    Forum posted ago
    Harmony Seeker Harmony Seeker
    - Yeah, I know how you feel SoConfused. My mind slips here and there all the time. I also get afraid that he wont come back to me too. My guy and I were never official, but we had a very strong connection between the two of us. My mind does tell me negative things and tells me to give up and move on, all the time. I listen to my heart though. My heart is still telling me to hold out longer for him a...

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  • bhonest1
    bhonest1
    is he in his cave or did he give up?
    Okkaayy, I dont know where to start simply because there's so much to share. I have been in a relationship with the father of my daughter for about6 yrs (since we were 18) and I am currently pregnant with our second child. We have gone through a lot of phases together but down the road we have both hurt each other (including cheating)and caused one another to have deep insecurities about our ...

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    bhonest1 bhonest1
    - Thanks for your advice btw.

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  • vickp
    vickp
    Mid life crisis.........or is it over ? please help
    Hi i am new and need advice, i am devastated and confused and don't know what to do, my partner and i have had 3 wonderful years together, not one cross word or argument, then he started a new job a few months ago and also turned 51, he started going out with the lads from work, most are younger and single, he started drinking (he does not drink) and staying out later and more often...you know...

    Forum posted ago
    Luci Luci
    - Dear Vickp, I can only tell you from my own experience that when and if I was as upset and as devastated as you are, then there was a reason for it. You need to trust your instincts and what your body is telling you. You are not happy. You are miserable. You are in agony emotionally at times. Trust your feelings. Tell him YOU need time and space. Tell him YOU do not know if you want this relations...

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  • Heavy2
    Heavy2
    Just not sure has she gone into her cave?
    Ok so my ex and I have been getting along really well. We have been going out together and having a heap of fun to the point that we started sleeping together again. It started out as FWB but she kept asking me if I was fine with it which I was. Then she has confessed that she loves spending time with me, has feelings for me but is confused. She has been very distance from me for the past 2 da...

    Forum posted ago
    Harmony Seeker Harmony Seeker
    - Has she responded to those ones? If there is no reaction, I don't think it's much harm, but if you think it may be a bit too much right now, maybe don't send them too often. Message me if you want to talk in private. I can do my best to help. Or we can chatt here :)

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  • janiej
    janiej
    Should I stay or should I go?
    I have been dating a guy for 9 weeks. He has a cafe business & his main assistant has been away for a month, so he was/is busy. He is the first person I have reallyliked in 5 years - we are both over 40. He is Italian (is permanent citizen in my country though), Im not Italian. He wants me to meet his friends, wants to give me house key, talks in long term about us (ie. next year we'll...)...

    Forum posted ago
    janiej janiej
    - Thank you both so much. Well, it was just so fantastic seeing him again, but we obviously have a way to go. He seemed to genuinely enjoybeing with me too but he was a little more reserved. I guess it's almost like starting from scratch again. He hasn't initiated any contact at all :( and I have contacted him twice - he responded immediately both times, so that is good. I am not sure if ...

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  • ddee0208
    ddee0208
    I'm so clueless, is this the Cave thing...I'm about to dump him!
    I've been with this guy about 3 months, things are great, we don't fight, he's fun, we have a great time, I let him meet my 6/7 year old boys, they love him and I haven't had really to much to complain about. I thought things were headed in a fairly serious direction. My only issue is, he's horrible about answering his cell phone...horrible. He's really busy at work duri...

    Forum posted ago
    Harmony Seeker Harmony Seeker
    - I think you are making progress and I think you are doing it in the right way. Good for you. He replied to you because he is in problem solving mode, he got to be your hero and help solve your problem. He helped to put a smile on your face and that makes him happy.

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  • Jam
    Jam
    How to react ?
    Hey everyone . I just need advice on how to react when my BF doesn't replay my Intimate messeges to him ? it is fine with him to share how he feels and expose his feelings , but when it comes to me sharing my feelings he literaally ignores me !! for example yestrday I texted him telling him how much I miss him n stuff !! He didn't Replay me at all although he went online on whats...

    Forum posted ago
    london london
    - Also, stop emotionally reacting when he is not responding as/when you want him too. This sets up a bad dynamic whereby he gets a big reward (your attention, validation) for bad behavior (ignoring you when you're vulnerable). It is a dangerous association for a man to make. Essentially, you are rewarding bad behavior. His behavior is something that should be making YOU question how valuable he is, and whether he is going to make a good boyfriend, not your own self-worth.

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  • etta
    etta
    Trusting...
    Hi. This isn't my first time here but I hope to get opinions. We are in week six. So far he has treated me pretty good I will admit. Not perfectly, but pretty good. Actually, in all of my past relationships, I will say that this is the best. So what's the problem? Me. Just to give you an example (or two, three, whatever). We call each other. We text each other. And now recently, lol,...

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  • sakkar
    sakkar
    should I wait?
    Hello. I met this great guy by pure chance (he is an acquiantance to my friend's husband, but not really friends) That was last june, and we started dating alnmost right away. He's 49 and I'm 42. He's been divorced for five years now, after a 18-year marriage, and I had broken up with my boyfriend after about 20 happy years together, but never consolidating anything. ...

    Forum posted ago
    danti112 danti112
    - Hi My name is 'Danti Bruno' just want to share my experience with the world on how i got my love back and saved my marriage... I was married for 7years with 2kids and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had fights and arguments almost every time... it got worse at a point that she filed for divorce... I tried my best to make her change her mind & stay with me ca...

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  • Vegangirl
    Vegangirl
    Is this the Uncertainty stage? Confused! Need feedback.
    Hi all, I'm new to this forum and need some objective feedback: Some background: I'm 40, divorced, with 2 kids. The guy I've been seeing is 47 never been married, no kids, but has been in a few long term relationships (4-5 years). We met through a mutual friend who set us up on a blind date, because he reached out to her and told her that he's been looking to settle down a...

    Forum posted ago
    danti112 danti112
    - Hi My name is 'Danti Bruno' just want to share my experience with the world on how i got my love back and saved my marriage... I was married for 7years with 2kids and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had fights and arguments almost every time... it got worse at a point that she filed for divorce... I tried my best to make her change her mind & stay with me ca...

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  • bellelight
    bellelight
    What should I do when my man is ignoring my communication?
    I met a 47 year old man online in January. We met for lunch right away, and really clicked. The next day, he text me, we chatted, and he said “too bad we can’t get together” and I said “who said we can’t?”, and so we had a date that night, out to dinner. We were both very attracted to each other, and talked easily. We didn’t see each other for a week aft...

    Forum posted ago
    danti112 danti112
    - Hi My name is 'Danti Bruno' just want to share my experience with the world on how i got my love back and saved my marriage... I was married for 7years with 2kids and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had fights and arguments almost every time... it got worse at a point that she filed for divorce... I tried my best to make her change her mind & stay with me ca...

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  • angeleyes153
    angeleyes153
    Uncertainty Stage of Dating
    I have a very legitimate question I would like some insights on! Now that we have some men joining us in the forum, perhaps they'd like to offer their insights to this as well. During the “Uncertainty Stage” of dating. What happens when you break a man's rubber band? The question is this: Is the relationship lost forever? Just curious......

    Forum posted ago
    danti112 danti112
    - Hi My name is 'Danti Bruno' just want to share my experience with the world on how i got my love back and saved my marriage... I was married for 7years with 2kids and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had fights and arguments almost every time... it got worse at a point that she filed for divorce... I tried my best to make her change her mind & stay with me ca...

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  • Harmony Seeker
    Harmony Seeker
    It's a positive/good sign
    if a guy reaches out to you while he's in his cave? even for just a few hours? Just need some reasurace

    Forum posted ago
    danti112 danti112
    - Hi My name is 'Danti Bruno' just want to share my experience with the world on how i got my love back and saved my marriage... I was married for 7years with 2kids and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had fights and arguments almost every time... it got worse at a point that she filed for divorce... I tried my best to make her change her mind & stay with me ca...

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