Love, Romance, and Relationship Advice from John Gray

Dear John,
Do men respect you, or even like it, if you ask them for a date? I've been attracted to a professor of mine for a year now. We are both in our forties. I can assume that he can't ask me out due to school policy, but now that the school year is up and he will no longer be my instructor, should I be so forward as to ask him out?
-Straight "A" and All Grown-up, in Boston

Dear Student,
On the issue of whether or not men mind being asked out on dates, believe me, most men are flattered. Schools vary as to their policies on dating between faculty and students, so check with your school counselor before making any move. Should you get clearance based on the fact that he is no longer your professor, there is no reason why you could not suggest a casual get-together. After all, he may not have been aware of your interest, and it might indeed be reciprocated. As with all first-date situations, approach this as a casual friendship until he makes it clear that he is also attracted to you. Then you both can "graduate" to a more exclusive relationship.

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