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Recently, I felt that my boyfriend of a year and a half is acting as though we were strangers; he stopped holding my hand when we're out, and he became quiet, like something was in his mind, and so I've decided to sound him out. At first he kept insisting he was having 'mood swings', till I couldn't help it and started crying, saying that I felt hurt from the way he is treating me. I mean, how can he shut me out from his life just because he is feeling down? Eventually, he suggested that we should take a break from each other, saying he was getting bored of his current life (work, part-time studies, family, etc) and how routine it is. He also said he wanted to spend more time with his friends, just like how they used to.

After a weekend I felt so frustrated and upset (as I didn't know what is he thinking), I wrote him a letter, telling him all my thoughts and feelings and ways to salvage the relationship. I've also asked him out to talk things out, but he said he wasn't ready to see me yet. He had decided to break-up with me, saying that he felt happier with his friends, and that he lost the enthusiasm to maintain the relationship for quite awhile. I don't know if the main problem lies with the fact that we have been spending too much time together, and that we don't know each others' friends well. Ever since we got together, he stopped hanging out with his friends, and spent almost everyday with me. Once I knew what was wrong, I asked, 'Why didn't you tell me this sooner? We could have worked things out'. He just said, 'I found it hard to say 'no' to you'.

It just hurts me now that he's no longer part of my life, and that his feelings for me may eventually die out. I don't wish to agitate him now, but I really want to know if he has the intention to get back with me once he has 'cooled down'. So, I'm hoping that after a few weeks, I can actually ask him out to talk things out again. I don't know if the break-up was what he said was in a moment of frustration, or that he really meant it. Should I continue carrying the hope that he might return, or should I just move on? Or am I being to impatient with him, trying to pull him back when he's distancing himself away from me? I feel so lost right now; I wish I can know what is going through his mind right now.

Thank you for taking time to read this, and I really hope things do get better. Looking forward to some advice soon. =)

okay..just wanted a little advice and figured I would reach out and see what anyone has to say. I apologize in advance if this sounds like a ridiculous post...

I started OLD a few months ago (dated a few guys) and found someone that I have really connected and enjoyed talking to and spending time with. The only problem is he lives about three hours away from me. At first I was reluctant to even entertain the idea, but after getting to know this M a little more, I figured that I should not waste any opportunity and at least give him a chance.
Anyways, my little question is that we have met, spoken on the phone for 2 months, and he sends me sweet emails, texts, and even talk to me on the phone about how excited he is about how things are going with us and that he would like things to continue on a positive note. He usually always writes me sweet messages on a daily basis and will make comments about how he cant wait to see me again.
Well, this weekend I went up to his town to visit him. Everything went well and we got along great. The only thing that I felt that was missing was that sweet romantic side to him that he shows during his emails and phone calls. I noticed that he much more expressive on the phone and/or via email/text than when we are together. I was actually disappointed when I left this weekend because I was hoping that he would be as expressive in person. I found that he actually never opened up about how he was feeling, and not until the last day did he say he mention he had a great time and didnt want me to leave.

sooo...with that said, I am questiong if I am I overreacting or is there something to the situation? Is it strange that he would be so expressive when we are NOT in person and then remain quiet when he sees me? or is that a typical M behavior?

i feel like i sound desperate, however I guess I am just looking for consistency.

Thanks!

This guy and I have always had a thing for eachother but things never went our way. Timing wasn't right, people didn't want us to be together, and we just weren't emotionally available.

However, we finally ended up dating and it was the most amazing time of my life. We lost our virginity to eachother and were truly in love.

But a couple of months ago things got rocky and i got pregnant. I had an abortion which is what we both wanted but things just weren't the same for him and he broke up with me. He told me we would stay friends, but now he just wants to get away from me.

I just want to know what I should do...how I should handle the situation. I love him and I want him back more than anything. Should I try to move on and let him go? I really can't do that, I'm truly in love with him and I don't know even how to be okay without him I'm just miserable.

He claims he's not leaving me because of the pregnancy thing, he claims that its just not meant to be but in the long time we dated, all he ever talked about was being together forever and how were meant to be with eachtoher. We had our fights but....we always worked it out except for this time. I just have no idea what to do. Any help is much appreciated

and might i add that he was the most supporting boyfriend through the entire pregnancy. We broke up right after we found out I was pregnant because he couldn't handle the stress and I compelely understood that, but we got back together because hew as just so amazing through the process and took complete care of me and it brought us so close....then he dumps me again and says he DOESNT EVEN WANT TO BE FRIENDS. i am so lost. so so so lost.

This is not the way I expected to start 2009. Happy new year to me.....

Thanks to anyone who answers, sorry for the length..(and btw he definteily wanted me to have the abortion)

It is absolutely incredible - there several points in my relationships where the end...the first is the magic 3 month mark, then 6 months, and then 18. 6 months to the day (well, almost) and it looks as though M has gone "poof." M and I will have been dating 6 months, tomorrow.

As you may recall from my previous posts, its not unusual for M to go several days without texting/calling (he's a quiet guy) - but never more that 3. I rarely if ever call or text him first. He spent Christmas morning with my son and me and was very generous to both of us. Son and I went out of own for the weekend and M and I texted back and forth a few times. Got back late Monday. M called Tuesday, had a normal conversation - nothing out of the ordinary. It is now 4 days later and I have not heard a word from him, not even a reply to one of the rare texts I initiated, which just said "Happy New Year Baby!" (He had to work the next morning, so we did not get together). Having not heard word one, I tried calling him today and he didn't answer his phone so, instead of leaving a message, I sent him a text that just said I was touching base. No reply. I know it was very un - M/V but I was tired of swinging in limbo, so later I sent him a text that said, "Four days without hearing from you is a bit unusual. If you just need time to yourself, say so....if you are walking away, please show me the courtesy of telling me, even if by text."
NOTHING!!!! I have this man the easiest out possible. All he had to do was text me that he was done and, despite the easy out, NOTHING!!!!! What in the world have done to warrant this being ignored?

We are supposed to go on vacation together at the end of the month - he even bought his airline ticket - what the heck??????