While we all ultimately share the same needs, you will see as you read this article that men have a unique set of primary needs that are different from a woman’s needs of caring, understanding, and respect. Recognizing your partner’s needs is a positive step toward relationship harmony, but each sex’s needs must also be met. Trouble arises in a relationship when one partner fails to acknowledge and honor the other’s needs.
Couples don’t typically ignore their partner’s needs on purpose. But here’s the common blunder: when you aren’t aware of what your partner requires, it’s easy to assume that treating them the way you would like to be treated will suffice. When it comes to men and women, this is certainly not the case. As a result, when a woman is stressed she may have a man who gives her space because that’s what he would prefer, when all she really wants to do is have company and talk. Likewise, a woman may pursue a man when it seems as though he is stressed because she would want that attention, but he just needs to be left alone.
The good news is that you don’t have to create a checklist of what the man in your life needs – respecting his primary needs isn’t like marking off a grocery store list – you just need to develop your awareness and keep his primary needs in mind when things get strained or stressed, touchy or confusing.
A Man’s First Primary Need Is to Be Appreciated
Men are particularly moved by hearing a woman share her appreciation for his actions. So moved, in fact, that a woman’s appreciation can help motivate a man to do the same great things for her repeatedly. Do you love it when he walks through the door and immediately gives you a hug? If so, thank him for it and you’re more likely to get another one. Does it give you butterflies when he kisses your neck in just the right spot? Make sure he knows how this makes you feel and you’re more likely to get this kind of affection in the future. But remember, it’s got to be genuine appreciation – if you don’t mean it, don’t fake it.
Read on and find out about a man’s other primary needs…
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