You met a great guy online and have gone on several dates with him. You think things are really starting to heat up, so you decide to hide your online profile, but before you do, you take another look at his and your heart drops. It says "Active within 24 hours." You just saw him two nights ago, he sent you a sweet e-mail today and, even though you have plans to see him this weekend, he's still searching for other dates! Is he no longer interested in you, or could he be a player? Should you confront him or just dump him?
The answers are: no, no, no and no. Online dating has brought about many advances in the way people date, but it has also added some new wrinkles. One of the most potentially damaging to a budding relationship is the fact that people tend to leave "footprints" in cyberspace. Simply put, the fact that he's dating other people - or even thinking of dating other people - is right there in your face. Online dating brings many other unique twists to the table. In traditional dating circumstances you do not encounter situations like the false sense of intimacy that electronic communication encourages, the ability to "Google" a potential partner, and the shopping list mentality, where each potential match must fit a preselected list of criteria. Perhaps most difficult is dealing with the fact that your dream guy is still looking - this can be a big blow to a woman's ego.
So why is he still searching? There are actually two reasons...
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