General Mars Venus Testimonials & Thank You Letters!

Mars Venus Coaching Helped Save my Relationship

I initially read Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus several years ago in an effort to understand men better.  Since I wasn't dating anyone at the time, I took some basic principals out of it.  I started dating after a 6 year hiatus and I picked up Mars and Venus on a Date.  I started understanding the 5 stages of dating.  I had no ideas they existed.  Then I met a guy that I totally fell for.  I was panicking.  I wasn't handling the relationship well at all.  So, I decided to call a coach to help me apply the Mars/Venus principals.  I have been working with Merna for over a year now.  She helped me understand the principals.  Not just from a dating perspective, but starting over, writing feeling letters, why I ate to hide my feelings, understanding my love tanks, and 90/10 issues.

I have a better understanding on how to talk to men about my feelings and how to channel my emotional energy elsewhere and not push it on my relationship.  I have learned how to become my own best friend and treat myself well.  I had a breakthrough a few weeks back with my current relationship and I have been able to handle my emotional distress in different ways rather than crying and getting upset with him.  As a result, my 4 month relationship has gone much smoother the past few weeks.  I still have moments of insecurity, but I write feeling letters, journal, and talk to my girlfriends about it rather than him. 

I have learned how to support a man by being appreciative, accepting, and thankful.  I now understand his primary needs are different than mine.  I now tell him that he'll work out his issues and he'll figure it out and I try not to give him unsolicited advice.  Due to John Grey's books and my coach, I have been able to let go of my past failed relationships, understand why they failed, understand my issues with anger, and learn to have a healthier relationship.

It's hard for me to write all I have learned in the past year from John Grey's teachings.  My life has changed dramatically as a result.

Linda S.

Getting the Love and Respect you Need through Understanding

I feel that I am a smarter woman and I am able to make better choices in my life because of John Gray’s website and information that is sent to me. I also enjoy his books!

I am able to understand men so much better and I now know where they are coming from and where they are going.  This helps me relax and not get stressed out over silly things that I once did.  I understand the "nature of the beast", so to say.

Before, every problem was magnified and now I am able to have an understanding of most problems that occur. Believe me; with every new friendship and relationship, the problems begin, even if everything feels so comfortable in the beginning. By knowing the Mars Venus principles, I am treated with more respect and love, which is what I want my life.  I am no longer surrounded by disappointments, flattened goals and chaos.  I am more tolerant and try to see things in perspective.

Thank you, John Gray, for your books and free information on line.  I would love to be a part of your trip and talk about things more because life's problems are forever....and can be solved creatively.

Kathryn M.

Now I Know he Cares About Me

After the break up with my boyfriend of 4 years, I sought answers to the many questions I had as to what went wrong. Answers that even he didn't know. The ironic part is that I have had the "Mars and Venus" books in my book shelf for at least 8 years. I know I must have read them before, but for some reason now I was ready to adsorb the material. I was desperate for answers and understanding. I still love my boyfriend very much and always will. I thought if I could find out what went wrong I could at least make some changes in myself that would be a great start.

The books changed my life.  I suddenly understood so many things. Before the books I was teeter tottering on the brink of becoming a "man hater" because I just couldn't work out my relationship troubles. Before I did not understand why men acted the way they did.  Now I have actually done such a dramatic change. I see my boyfriend in a new light.  I am more patient than I ever imagined.  I have more empathy for the male species and understand what they go through on a day to day basis. 

I'm not so focused on the negatives and am really grateful for all the small things that he does for me that mean so much.  I recognize the little behaviors that make me know that he still cares and it has been wonderful. I am still yet to master "what I say' "what he hears" but I've got a life time to learn and Mars Venus to help me.

I am so glad I shook the dust of those books and made the effort.  We are not back together yet and I don't know if we ever will be, but at least we don't argue anymore and we are even spending some time together and having fun.  Now that's valuable.

What a difference you made in our lives.  Thank you, John, I am such a fan now.  I have I think I have every book that you've written.

Fran D.

From the Verge of a Break Up to Marriage

I was in a relationship for 4 years and my boyfriend wanted to split up! I suffered a lot. I wanted to understand what was wrong in our relationship. I read Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus to get an understanding of what was going wrong.

This book helped me see my mistakes and taught me how to correct them. I understood that we (men and women) communicate differently, think differently and express our feelings differently.

Now we're together again. We're married and happy together. We communicate better with each other, we accept our differences.

I'd like to thank John Gray who helped us saving our love.

Nadine E, in Beruit.

Change is difficult but Worth it

Dr. Gray’s books saved my marriage! I was close to a divorce when I came across them.  After reading these books and I realized the mistakes I made all the time. I read them many times since.  I know I need to continue to read them since changing of your attitude is so-o-o-o difficult... But I continue to work at it.

I would like to thank Dr. Gray for his work. He deserves Nobel prize!

Izabella P., in Slovakia

Ask a Man, Give to a Woman

Mars Venus has changed the lives of my daughter and me. All my life I've been doing the wrong things like giving too much and not asking for support, expecting him to give it to me without asking. Reading the Mars Venus made it click in my brain and understood how I contribute to my unhappiness.

I've been married for 22 years, we separated 9 years ago. Since I read the Mars Venus books, I noticed that my expectations are now different. And I realized that I'm always thinking of what to do to “mother” others. My daughter now says: for a man, ask for what you need; for a women give and they will give back to you freely.  She practices this with everyone, at work, at college.... everywhere.

I still don’t have a partner but I follow John Gray advice and practice the Mars Venus principles all the time.  I will never thank you enough. Here in Spain things can be really difficult with the “macho” culture.  But Mars Venus has helped me understand it better. 

Your internet page is fantastic.  I go there every day.

Isabel M., in Spain

Mars Venus Helped me Get Through Tough Times

Mars Venus Principles has helped me, especially during the most difficult times of my life. When family and friends are not enough to comfort me and make me understand about my heart's thoughts and what is bothering me, Mars Venus helped me get through it.

After I bought the book and read it, somehow the book made me realize things that I never knew before.  One thing that I realized was that men and women react differently to things in our daily lives.  Some of these things we take for granted, not knowing that these things may mean something completely different to the opposite gender.

Thank you very much, Dr. John Gray, for helping me see the differences.

Rachel L., in Philippines

After Heartbreak, Mars Venus Helped Me Learn to Move on to Happiness

I came to MarsVenus when I'd begun a relationship that very early on exhibited troubling signs.  At 53, I'd had serious relationships--two marriages and a third long-term relationship--and in each of them, I'd been the one to end things and move on.  I'd finally met a man that I actually loved (or believed I loved) unconditionally, on a molecular level.  But, he did not return the feelings. 

Whereas I could not last in a relationship, he could not get started.  And thus began a process that was not only to change my life, but would cause me to redefine even my earliest memories, changing the way I lived and felt about ... everything. 

Mars Venus Starting Over and How to Have What You Want and Want What You Have were the books that helped me start down the road of spiritual, emotional, mental, and psychological recovery.  Bit by bit, and moment by moment I learned to engage the part of me that wanted to live and live well and let go the part of me that needed my old life back.  That life belonged to some other woman.  I was now a different person.  The loss of all security that echoed down the corridors of time to earlier loss, required that I become different.

While I began with the more conventional MarsVenus principles, desperately trying to get a relationship to track right; I have to say that the principles that continue to inspire me are those that strike deeper into the soul of who we are in ourselves and in the midst of God (for lack of better terminology). 

The "man" part of my story has become a metaphor, an agent of much-needed change and growth.  2 years ago, I felt devalued by this man's rejection.  Now, I know that my life is a great success because I continue to live in it, gratefully, deliberately, and in full accountability for all that I feel and believe.  I love the life I'm in.  I believe in the moment and in laughing.  I see life as a series of games and I play them out to the fullest. 

I don't know whether I will meet someone; but I do know that my happiness is not dependent on that.  I believe that I will live and love and give and receive.  And when the last "put out the light" is spoken, my sleep will be untroubled.

Judy M.

I Can Understand my Partner Now

Dr. Gray's principles have helped me to significantly understand my partner better, a man who is 15 years my senior and who I have dubbed “The Leader of the Martians”. While reading Dr. Gray's book(s), I find myself nodding my head and saying, "Yes!  I can relate."  I've learned to incorporate his teachings into new behaviors and thoughts. Of course, I do have slip ups now and then and keep his books handy as a reference guide. 

I would highly recommend the Mars Venus Principles to others.  There are certain techniques that have proven extremely helpful to me when reacting to my partner. Dr. Gray is both honoring to women and men.  He's helped our society to celebrate, rather than condemn, the differences between the sexes. His work is truly a gift.

Melinda M.

Learning to Love Yourself at any Age

I originally checked into the site looking for solutions and answers to why my six month relationship fell apart and how to consol myself through the loss.  With the help of the readers and coaches of this site, I came to realize that my ex was commitment phobic and I had issues from childhood that I needed to look at.  I also had not grieved over the death of my husband 35 years ago.

I went out and found all of John Gray’s books.  I read them and I continue to re-read them today.  Learning how to take care of myself emotionally at 55 years young is not an easy task but it is worth it.  Who would have thought I would be relearning in my life now . . . and loving it! 

I can’t thank you enough, John Gray.

Rita C.

Mars Venus turned a Shy Guy into a Popular and Understanding Man

I knew of the book Mars & Venus for many years, but I bought it just five years ago.  The points in John Gray’s book are EXTREMELY HELPFUL.

I had changed from a very shy man to a very popular guy.

I work in the computer industry.  I found it was very difficult to communicate with women before I was forty six. After I read your book Men are From Mars, Women are from Venus, I find it's absolutely easy to understand women.  Like many other readers of your books, I bought and borrowed other Mars Venus books from the book shops and libraries.

I should also say your books help me with more that understanding women's thoughts, they also help me on my daily life (Mars Venus in the Work Place and What you Can Feel you Can Heal helped me with my feelings of anger, sadness, etc.).

Did you know that your books, especially the first book, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus is famous in Hong Kong?  I think your books will also be popular in Taiwan and Mainland China soon.

Cheuk K., from Hong Kong, a reader since 2002

Promote Understanding at a Younger Age

After being married to a control freak for 20 years, I thought all men were awful.  Mars Venus changed that for me.  I've read 5 of John's books and loved them all!  So many books man bash or female bash but not Mars Venus. 

Gray’s principles are simple ... there ARE differences in men and women; instead of trying to change your partner, understand each other.  Finding about how men pull away when they are stressed was such an eye opener for me.  Wow ... I always thought I was being ignored.  I have learned so much about relationships and have now gotten remarried.  We, too, have had some issues, but I am able to stay calm, fight fair, and still love my new husband now that I realize how to handle our differences.  I have asked him to read the 3 of the 5 books I have so that he, too, will be able to understand ME better as a woman.  I truly feel that once both people in a relationship understand the differences and can then understand their partners, that relationships would last a whole lot longer. 

I think John's books should be required reading in ALL senior high schools.  His principles don't just help married people; I think they apply to all relationships: college roommates, colleagues, friends and their spouses, etc.  If we were taught at a young age about gender differences, we would learn to be more accepting of others, less defensive, more loving, more tolerant, and we wouldn't get so angry or have as many misunderstandings.

Suzanne B.

Honesty and Unconditional Love

Thanks to Mars Venus, I am not losing myself anymore. I live my life with healthy boundaries. I can be honest and tell people what I want what my needs are. I can give without expecting to get back.  And I experience love without conditions.

J.V., from Den Haag

We treat Each other Better Now

After I read Men are from Mars, and Women from Venus, I understood how I used to interact with men and with my partner. I also learned how I should interact with men to get from them what I want as a woman. My partner has also read the book, and he treats me better now because he knows my needs! I think is a great book to read for those who want to understand the opposite sex better!

Maribet R.

Helped Me End a Bad Relationship and Find a Good One

The Mars & Venus books saved my life in many ways.

When I read them, I was in a very risky and unhealthy relationship, and about to get married. Mars & Venus then helped me end it and overcome the pain successfully.  If had it not been for this little yellow book, Mars Venus Starting Over, I wouldn't have met my current husband, with whom I enjoy a wonderful love relationship.

The Mars & Venus books on sex and love helped me go through my present relationship positively.

I owe Mars & Venus principles so much!

Razan K., From Switzerland

On Love and Pulling Away

Thanks to Mars Venus, I now understand how a man needs to pull away and not to get to upset by it.  I also know that even though you may love someone, it doesn’t always mean they are the person for you.

Vickie P.

Better Communication Thanks to John Gray

Hey Uncle John,

Well I hope you know that all your advice and all of your books have always helped me. It would probably be kinda corny to have your niece talk, but your advice and your books have really improved me and my current boyfriend's relationship, we have such better communication and we love each other more because of it.

I don’t know how to thank you for all the times you have helped me with relationship stuff.  When I do what you say everything gets better.

Elizabeth G.

Mars Venus helps two Soulmates Connect

In the year 2002 my spouse since 17 years (she says 16 1/2...) wanted a separation. She told me I was not enough for her and the kids, but focused on my work and hobbies. I told her I could change, but she said it was the same in 1996 and I promised to change back then.

I was devastated, I got really sick, my whole world disappeared, the ground I walked on disappeared and I became depressed and anxious.  I encouraged her to join me for counseling and we decided on a 6 month trial separation.

A friend of mine recommended the book Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus and even though I had looked in it before, I saw it now in a totally another light. I understood what went wrong and I learned so much. My ex saw the differences, even considered reconciliation, but felt it was other things as well, like going into a relationship at a too young age, and that the purpose of the relationships was done.

During the trial separation I met a friend on a forum.  She was also in a separation and we supported each other. Me from Sweden and she from the Philippines. I told her to read Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.  She supported me and was truly like an angel . . . and she in return called me her hero.

Suddenly there we were, two singles, best friends online, we started to felt a deep love, a spiritual love. We both questioned if one can be in love via internet, so we decided to meet and find out. And we did.  She went to Sweden and from the moment we met,  we did feel the same, our love is on a very spiritual level.

We are so thankful of John Grays work.  Even though our love is very deep and we feel like soulmates and twinsouls, the communication between men and women and the different kinds of love need to be learned.

Of course our relationship is up and down sometimes, but thanks to John’s work we know what is happening and can understand it more easily and then discuss it and learn and improve.

We both feel that Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus should be mandatory reading before seriously entering a relationship.

Stefan A. & Angela, from Sweden

It Keeps Getting Better Thanks to Mars Venus

The Mars Venus principles have helped me in many ways in my relationship with my boyfriend. 

I no longer wait by the phone for him to call me.  I no longer get worried that he might be unfaithful when we're apart. I no longer give more than I should in our relationship. I am learning to live in the moment, instead of worrying about the future, over which I have no control.

All in all, I am more relaxed and a better girlfriend with whom he wants to spend time. This was recently reflected by comments he made by saying, "I really want this relationship to work. I want to spend the rest of my life with you. I love you and I respect  you. We are partners and I like you very much."

We have now been in this loving relationship for 15 months and it just keeps getting better, thanks to the Mars Venus principles.

Carol C., from Canada

Health is the Roadmap to successful Relationships

Right from the beginning, it was all his fault in my eyes, his not talking to me, becoming very impatient and angry during conversations, tinkering with his truck, and permanently disconnected from me. Our whole relationship had become very tense and silent with angry outbursts. We were on the way down and I knew it.

It was his fault, or so I thought, until I started learning about the Mars Venus principles.

The shift was so immediate that I could not comprehend these concepts could actually change our lives.  And change our lives they did. It still was very bumpy and we made a lot of wrong turns, however, we had a road map, one which we referred to over and over again. We kept on persevering, but we still tripped up and almost gave up.

Little did I know that the best was yet to come!  Little did I know that I was about to have my husband back!

The husband that I married, the husband that could listen to me without exploding, the husband that was no longer addicted to pornography. Sure, he still looked at other women, but not with the compulsion he previously had.  I could not believe that after years of him racing his car, (with me in the passenger seat) he finally could stop at red lights without trying to beat them.  For the first time, he was no longer angry, I got to see the gentle side of him that I had known when we first met. He finally got out his cave and joined our family life.

The changes in my husband started after I followed the Mars Venus Solution and made him up a shake for breakfast.  It was then that I realized that all of his undesirable male traits were caused by nutritional deficiency.

Meanwhile, after having 2 children, I was going down and I knew it. I was alone, abandoned, bringing up a toddler, and a baby.  I was very sleep deprived and I would vacillate from anger and rage to crying and denial. I would lock myself in the bathroom crying with rage, I was scared I was going to hurt my precious children. I was so overwhelmed, depressed and in pain emotionally. I hated the world.

Then I stumbled onto the Mars Venus Solution and made myself a shake following the directions.  The effects were not immediate. It took a little more time for me to start feeling better. I experimented with some additional ingredients and then started to instantly feel better.

I started to relax and enjoy my life.  I stopped blaming my husband and the depths of despair had disappeared. I started to notice that the sun was actually shining.

All of the Mars/Venus Principle have changed my life, but the Mars Venus Shakes have made the biggest difference.  The Shakes have enhanced all the other principles. They have made everything else more effective.

Thank you for the opportunity to express my gratitude for the Mars Venus principles. They have restored my optimism and given me knowledge that I can use in problems such as divorce, depression, addiction, health, ADD/ADHD, obesity just to name a few.

We are now looking at ways the Mars Venus Principles can assist us in bringing up our children (boy and girl) and helping family and friends where possible.

Chrissa C. from Australia

Getting my Boyfriend to Call . . . By not Calling Him

When I am upset with my boyfriend for not calling, I pick up Mars and Venus on a Date and I read the section “To Call or Not to Call” to paraphrase the chapter:

"Many women do Call and tell  him how upset they feel.  Unfortunately, this prevents the natural unfolding and development of the relationship.  It is a mistake to call a man and be upset with him --for not calling.  If you are upset, then, definitely DON’T CALL a man!

Remember that men are --from Mars."

So I refrain from calling my boyfriend. And then I am so proud of me to not have acted on my impulsions... because then I receive a call from him.

And my internal dialogue tells me: 'You see Christine, there were --no reason to be upset!'  What a great & helpful statement.

Thank you Mr. Gray!

Christine G. From Canada

Mars Venus Endorsed by Marriage Therapists

I am a Marriage and Family Therapist. I never see a couple that I don't send home a Mars Venus Video with for homework. The videos make my job so much easier. We are able to begin the process of healing a relationship by staring with communication.

I have 2 copies of every video and give numerous tapes out at any given week.

Great job! Keep up the good work.

Cindy W.

Mars Venus Principles Help in Divorced and Single Support Groups

WOW... this is my relationship bible! I recommend his books to everyone, including my single children. Men and women say and hear things differently.  I have learned so much about men, things I wish I knew while I was married, actually, before I was married.   I understand my 22 yr old son, who is so different from my 25 yr old daughter.

Dating at my age (55) is difficult, but I learned about what men do and don't do thanks to Mars Venus.  Life makes sense after reading Dr Gray's books.  It really does not matter what stage you are in life, you are a man or a woman forever. We are wired different...but complement each other.  Once we understand where we are coming from things get easier. 

I have co-facilitated a divorce/widow support group, and also lead a marriage support group, and I recommend his books to all. My eyes are wide open to problems in marriages, due to the knowledge I have received from the Venus and Mars series. I've learned how to handle so many problems about grief/pain and how to heal. I work as a parish nurse, so I listen, guide and pray through many problems with my parishioners. I like that Dr Gray has a spiritual side, because without faith there is no hope, and it is that hope that we need to give to one another.

Thank you

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. . . for giving the world (planet earth) such great insight on the other planets. . . Venus and Mars!

Diane B

Balancing the Masculine and Feminine Sides Make both Partners Happier

John’s principals have made a huge difference in my marriage and in all aspects of my life; friends, coworkers and family.  I use his principals of empathetic listening with my wife to keep us connected and sensitive to each others needs and concerns. I am also always balancing our male/female roles in order to avoid the dangers of role reversal.  I use my male side to help keep my wife balanced on her feminine side and giving me the best love and caring she can give. Knowing that she's keeping score, I also make sure I do the little things that help lift her daily burdens and a few big things each month to equalize our scores.  I also allow her the right to get angry and don't try to block it but actually reinforce it so that she can get all her words out she needs to say in order to process all her feelings and work through her daily concerns or issues.  I try not to fix her but just listen and let her talk while I grunt affirmations and support her and "eureka" she feels better. 

She rarely makes me wrong and gives me loads of support and acceptance for who I am.  She overlooks most of my mistakes and accepts me even when I don't deserve it. And as John points out, that makes me want to love her more and make her happy and fulfilled as a woman.  And truthfully, she uses lots of empathy and acceptance with me that makes me feel loved trusted as a man. I also give her nurturing non-sexual touching at least 5 to 8 times a day which puts her back in touch with her feminine side and greatly increases our sexual playfulness and fulfillment in our active sex life.  We are both 59 years old. So that's a big plus.

All in all, Johns Mars and Venus principals have given us both the opportunity to experience real love and companionship like we deserve but never thought we would have in a relationship.  And that is a great gift at our age.  We are having the sweetest times of our lives thanks to John Gray and the power of accepting and loving our differences.  We are utilizing them to make our lives better for ourselves and our friends and family.

Steve M.

Coaching Makes the Journey through Life Easier

I have finally realized that so many other people go through the same thing in relationships.  Just knowing so many other people have been there and there is light at the end of the tunnel, makes the journey easier to go through.  I have also learned so many things from the coaching sessions that I will take with me forever!  Mars Venus is like having a worldwide best friend to talk to!  Thanks so much for all that you do!

Julia D.

Men, Women and Relationships...

Thank you, Mr. Gray! I read your "Men, Women and Relationships" in the early '90s and it planted seeds in me that flourish to this day. I re-read it periodically and see results in all my men/women relationships, not just romantic ones. An "Independent" woman, I started "approving, appreciating and trusting" men, not vying for appreciation as I used to. I have taught my daughter that what men want you to do is APPRECIATE what they do, not compete with them. Trust was the biggest issue for me, but I learned to trust that they WANT TO & CAN fulfill my needs (and they usually do, and if not, I forgive) which has helped me in my personal and professional life. Supervising men like this gets things done which I love and the guys love to work for me. Other women in authority should read your book!

Ann S.

On Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus.

You probably get tons of emails of praise about the book Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus and here is another one! Almost a year ago I ended my 3 year relationship. Things were going downhill for a long time and I finally gathered the guts and did it. Soon after my relationship ended, I started reading Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. When John Gray referred to what women want and to typical male/female statements, interpretations and responses, I found myself laughing and nodding. When it came to what men want and how they behave and respond I was absolutely shocked! I realized that in my 3 year relationship we both made so many common errors in communicating with one another. We completely did not understand each other and literally spoke different languages!

Now I am in a new relationship and things are going so smoothly. I am trying to get him to read the book but in the meantime I am reading certain parts of the book to him and he loves it. The other night I was complaining about a work related issue and he was so sweet and understanding about it. He didn't offer me any advice. He nodded and sympathized and it was perfect! I felt so much better after speaking to him about it.

However, I think that the biggest change on my part is just letting him take control of situations and not criticizing and not mothering him. He appreciates it because his ex-girlfriend used to criticize everything that he did so they fought a lot, the same mistake that I made with my ex-boyfriend. To my surprise he is fully capable and always gets things right on his own, without my input. I love it because I get to take a step back and relax. I always tell myself "if he does fail, what are the consequences?" They are never that huge anyway. And when he eventually does fail, I won't criticize either, I'll just laugh it off.

For example, I bought him a jersey that was a size too small. We both knew that he had 2 weeks in which to take it back and he was procrastinating. I bit my tongue and told myself that the worst case scenario is that he returns it too late and gets turned down and he'll just have to give the jersey to his younger brother. Big deal! It's not worth a confrontation and tension. But just before the 2 weeks were up he was wearing his new jersey :)

Yesterday he took me to a picnic spot about an hour and a half away from home. He didn't fill up before the trip, and on our way back home we came close to running out of petrol. In the past I would have given him a lecture about being responsible and filling up before a long trip. But again, I kept quiet. I even made a joke about it and we both laughed. Worst case scenario is that we got stuck and one of our friends or parents have some to rescue us. Again, no big deal and not worth the fight! I am so proud of myself!!!

So thank you for opening up my eyes to the opposite sex. The book is amazing. I don't think I ever would have been able to lead a good relationship without it.

Dalit M.

On How to Get What You Want and Want What You Have.

I am the PVSA (personal, vocational, social adjustment) Instructor for Goodwill of Southern California at the Victorville Career Development Center, working with adults who have disablities and obstacles to employment. As part of my position I lead the Peer Group at a local Domestic Violence Shelter and I co-advise for the AWARE (adults who are returning to education) at the local community college.

Seven years ago, at 38 years old I found myself divorced, unemployed, unskilled, and was spiritually and physically broken. I began on a journey of reconstruction and the book How to Get What You Want and Want What You Have was pivitol in my recovery. I have since graduated with Honors from Cal State San Bernardino and begin the Master's in Applied Women's Studies at Claremont Graduate University and intend to combine my PhD in Education to the program.

I use many of the tools and concepts from many of your books, including "Mars and Venus in the Workplace" in educating and inspiring others to move forward to fulfill their potential. I am appreciative for the ideas and re-enforcement you have given me through the pages of your books and listening to your books on audio-cassettes.

Thank you for providing tools that keep my life centered and have been monumental in who I have become.

Susan C.

On Mars and Venus Together Forever.

Dear Dr. John Gray,

Your book Mars & Venus - Together Forever was absolutely brilliant. I am on the verge of breaking up with the man I love. Now I read the book and I laugh at every page. I can relate directly to what was happening to me and my partner. Thanks a lot. I look forward to read your other books.

Thanks,

Siti

Men Are From Mars, Women Are from Venus. 

I just bought your book a few days ago and I'm already halfway through it! I also just started a relationship and was falling into those same patterns that I always have, but your book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus has cleared things up in a way that I always dreamed of! Your book has improved all of my relationships and changed my life. For that, I just wanted to thank John Gray and his wife and everyone involved in the writing and publishing of this book. Thank you so much for this wonderful gift. Your insight is unbelievably useful and profound!

Christina 

On Mars and Venus Starting Over.

THANK YOU! I have just purchased Mars and Venus Starting Over.  My marriage ended in divorce last year after I found out my wife of 15 years was cheating on me with someone I thought was my best friend. Over the past year I thought I had recovered well even though I felt bitterness over what had happened. I felt I was ready to move into a relationship with a lady who is my best friend. She recommended I purchase this book
and go through it (she is also recovering from a broken marriage).

Now this lady is still my best friend (probably even better now). We have both recognized that I am nowhere near "healed" or ready to enter a relationship.

On doing the things suggested (writing feeling letters, etc.) I have opened up to discover that I am actually a mess who has buried my hurt under a mask of strength. I am now beginning to release those feelings and while I now know it will take more time to heal, I know what I have to do to heal and have hope for the future.

Thank you for providing the help I need.

Wayne

On Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus...

Dear John,

I just have some comments to make. I'm 31 and divorced, I have been in a relationship for slightly over three years. I have to say that I am extremely relieved after reading your book, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.

Like many women, my parents didn't present themselves as good relationship models. After my divorce, I have struggled to understand, research and experience healthy relationships with men. Your book has confirmed all of the lessons I have learned on my own, a sometimes very lonely process. Through trial and error and dedication to my boyfriend, I have incorporated a lot of psychology and common sense into my current relationship.

We have weathered many difficult times and it had started to take its toll. We both have lacked in the communication department and it certainly had caused some tension. Your book has given me precise and simple information on the way men think and more importantly, what makes them feel loved. I saw over and over again, that the methods I used just weren't working. I felt like I was failing to give my boyfriend the support and attention he needed, which also caused him to become more passive and unmotivated.

The most important thing I have learned is that you cannot afford to neglect YOURSELF. I had done this for so long by "compulsively" giving to men, I never really gave him a chance to give back. I never really understood why I behaved this way until I read your book.

After reading your book, I now feel comforted by my newfound perception of men. In just the few short days of reading your book and experimenting with different ways to change the way I related to my boyfriend, I can see a difference in him already.

As a result, I just ordered four more books from your website. I'm excited and I can't thank you enough for your valuable insight.

I am recommending you to everyone I know!

Thanks,

Jennifer  

On Mars and Venus in the Bedroom.

I was reading "Mars and Venus in the Bedroom," and I came to the part of the book where Dr. Gray talks about some women who are multiorgasmic and are still unsatisfied after many orgasms. There is actually a newly discovered medical condition that causes this, called, "Persistent Sexual Arousal Syndrome," or PSAS. This disorder is being studied at Boston University Center for Sexual Medicine. Dr. Gray's advice on this is quite good, and there are some other things that women with this condition can do to stay comfortable as well, such as plan their encounters to occur about every three days, and use a topical anesthetic after sex if the arousal sensations are too bothersome for them to sleep.

If you want more information for your readers, there are several websites to visit. There is the Boston University website, which is at:  http://www.bumc.bu.edu/Departments/PageMain.asp?Page=8105&DepartmentID=371
There is also a website that offers encouragement and spiritual help for sufferers at: www.psashelp.com  And, lastly, there's a PSAS support group at:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/psas_group/

Thanks!

Marjorie

Thanks for the article....

Dear John
The article on “What are you thinking about?” was extremely helpful and insightful! It’s something I’ve wondered about often, and just couldn’t understand about my boyfriend.

THANK YOU very much for clearing up that point for us Venusians. I feel SO relieved!!!

From Lauren, in Spain

On How to Get What You Want and Want What you Have...

I have spent many years searching for a metaphysician who spoke of the path that I identified with. I first studied with John Bradshaw in Houston at Palmer Episcopal Church. For three years studied Jungian analytical psychology at Jung Educational Center (including one year with a training analyst). Then I received a doctorate from UTexas-Austin in organizational behavior. Then studied NLP practitioner/master coach and trainer. I have read over 300 books by authors such as Franz Bardon and other theurgists, the British light schools and several others, even to be diverted by several of the pop psychologists. I Read your Mars and Venus and considered it brilliant. Then I found "How to Get What You Want and Want What You Have." After thirty years of searching I finally found the master. How humbled and thrilled I am. The slight brush toward Nirvana was breathtaking. If you do seminars or lectures or educational moments on this subject, please put me on your mailing list. It has always been said when the student is ready the master will come. I hope my time is now. Many thanks.

With great respect and very warm regards,
Eloise B., Ph.D.