Better Sex for Women

John Gray

Women love great sex as much as men. The difference between a woman and a man is that she doesn’t feel her strong desire for sex unless her need for love is first satisfied. Most important, she first needs to feel loved and special to a man. When her heart is opened in this way, her sexual center begins to open, and she feels a longing equal to or greater than what any man feels. Women love great sex as much as men, but to feel turned on, women have many more requirements.

Sexual intimacy can be one of the most powerful ways for a woman to lower her stress levels, because oxytocin is produced by sexual arousal and orgasm. Oxytocin, the cuddle hormone, is produced in great quantity during orgasm in both sexes. Oxytocin reduces blood pressure, cortisol levels, and fear. Studies have shown that animals and people with high levels of oxytocin are calmer, less anxious, and more social.

Though men and women have similar levels of oxytocin in their bloodstreams, women have more estrogen, which boosts the effectiveness of oxytocin. In addition, the testosterone in men counteracts the calming effects of oxytocin. The way that oxytocin interacts with estrogen and testosterone is at the root of the differences between the ways men and women respond to stress. Researchers have discovered that oxytocin lowers stress in women, but does not have the same effect in men. Stimulating too much oxytocin in a man can actually reduce his testosterone levels. Likewise, too much testosterone in women can lower the effectiveness with which her oxytocin lowers her stress levels.

The problem with having sex to generate oxytocin is that most women first need oxytocin to feel sexual desire. After a stressful day, the last thing most women think about is having sex. It is often the last thing on their to-do list. There are certainly exceptions to this, but most of the time stress inhibits a woman’s desire for sex.

Men and women react in opposite ways after sex on account of their hormones.The calming effects of this hormonal cascade are why men often roll over and fall asleep afterward. After sex, a man’s testosterone levels can drop for a while, which is why a man sometimes feels a need for greater distance immediately following sex. While a woman’s elevated oxytocin levels put her cuddle reflex in high drive, the dynamic of rising oxytocin and falling testosterone often causes a man to withdraw as his hormones return to their normal balance. Understanding and accepting that men sometimes retreat after sex, when women feel the most connected, can help avoid bad feelings.

A great sex life is not just the symptom of a passionate relationship, but is also a major factor in creating it. Great sex fills our hearts with love and can fulfill almost all our emotional needs. Loving sex, passionate sex, sensual sex, long sex, short sex, quickie sex, gourmet sex, playful sex, tender sex, rough sex, soft sex, hard sex, romantic sex, goal-oriented sex, erotic sex, simple sex, cool sex, and hot sex are all an important part of keeping the passion of love alive.

Great sex softens a woman and opens her to experience the love in her heart and to remember her partner’s love for her in a most definite way. Her partner’s skillful and knowing touch leaves no doubt in her mind that she is important to him. The hunger for love within her soul is fulfilled with her partner’s passionate and fully present attention. An ever present tension is momentarily released as she surrenders once again to the deepest longings of her feminine being. Her passion to love and be loved can be fully felt and fulfilled.

Regular and satisfying sex is one of the great gifts of a loving relationship. To enjoy this gift for a lifetime, long after the newness wears off, men and women need to be creative in finding new ways to assist women in raising their oxytocin levels. When a woman is able to relax, she can once again enjoy her sexuality.

For increasing a woman’s libido, any or all of these supplements may help.

1. Take one capsule of Mars Venus RX-W 10 to 20 minutes before meals for as long as needed. This supplement contains three traditional Korean herbs proven to stop hot flashes and reduce PMS symptoms for many women and balancing hormone production.

2. Add one tablespoon of Maca Powder to the Super Foods Shake or a glass of diluted apple juice. My wife loves this one and it stopped her hot flashes.

3. Take one capsule of Vitex for increased production of progesterone and one capsule of 5-HTP twice daily.

4. Take one capsule of Hormone Balance 10 to 20 minutes before each meal. This all-natural supplement contains extracts from flax, fruits and tubers designed to assist the body in making it’s own hormones.

5. Optional three-month healing program: Take two capsules of Myomin before meals or meal replacement shakes. Myomin contains three Chinese herbs to assist detoxifying the liver of hormone disruptors to support hormone production.

6. Take two capsules of Lithium Orotate twice daily. Low dose, lithium orotate is the most powerful natural stimulator of oxytocin. Oxytocin lowers a woman’s stress levels and increases her sexual response.

7. For increased pleasure and interest in sex use an herbal lubricant to restore vaginal health. Due to stress and hormonal imbalance, as a woman ages, pleasure during sex may decrease as her vaginal walls become thinner. Regular application at night for three weeks can restore vaginal health.

8. For increased responsiveness and pleasure, take one capsule of Brain Sharpener two hours before having sex.

9. For increased responsiveness and interest, take one capsule of Optimized Saffron daily before meals and 2-4 capsules two hours before sex.

10. One half lozenge of Neo 40 twice daily to improve blood flow to the genitals and one whole lozenge two hours before sex.

11. Take one capsule of Tongkat Ali daily and one extra capsule an hour before sex. Tongkat Ali helps to boost testosterone levels which for women can increase their interest in sex.

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The statements and products referred to throughout this site have not been evaluated by the FDA. They are not intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any disease. They are the expressed opinion of John Gray for the sole purpose of educating the public regarding their health, happiness and improved quality of relationships. Individual results may vary. Seek the advice of a competent health care professional for your specific health concerns.

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