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    Is This Just What Men Do?
    arizonaf1303 at 12/18/2018 7:51:55 AM
    So, I recently met this guy on the POF (plenty of fish) dating app. It is a free app. I reached out to him with a flirt first that simply said "hi there!" he responded a few days after and was very interested in getting to know me. We talked about the basics, names, ages, DOB, likes/dislikes, fav food, color etc...you would not believe the amount of stuff we have in common! So we exchange numbers, we text, talk on the phone (one night for 3+ hours) we learn that we both want the same things out of life: family, love and financial/career success. Things move rather quickly. He's a business man,  project manager for the city, and maintains a stressful and busy work life. However, he still found the time to text me each morning and throughout the day on most days until one saturday he texted me and let me know his dad (he's an only child, his parents have been married 29 years) had suffered a stroke. From that point on, things became a little distant. His texts were few and far between and his calls non-existent which is understandable, his dad was very ill and his job is very demanding. I reached out because I immediately assumed he'd lost interest. He responded with "how could you even think that? you're my everything and the woman i want to marry." when we first started talking, he even joked and asked what my ring size was becuase I seemed to be such a good match for him, and he for me. So, he began talking to me again, phone and text. I last heard from him Friday 12/14 and as far as I'd heard from his dad was doing much better. This is the second time he's gone "missing" and I don't know what to think. Everyone around me (including countless articles online) say if he's stressed, give him space to figure things out. I reached out and let him know I was here if he needed me, but haven't said anything since. I hate to be worried that he's losing interest again, but how can I not think that? This guy is 29 (i'm 25) and we have both expressed a deep interest in creating a future together. The last time this happened, he did come back but this is the first time it's takent his long. I want to give him the space he needs to de-stress but I don't want to lose him. Is this truly what men do when stressed out or verwhelmed? They just become distant and non responsive? 
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    choicesinhealth at 12/23/2018 10:31:23 AM
    I'd be cautious if you recently met him, he's talking about marriage, and he's distant.  It doesn't add up...
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    Is This Just What Men Do?
    Lucy2281 at 1/7/2019 11:16:05 AM
    It sounds like you’ve moved too quickly. In doing so, you haven’t had chance to get to know each other properly and now your emotions have got tied up in it. 

    I’d give him some space. If he’s really serious and worth it, let him come to you. It sounds like you’ve lost the balance and you’re chasing him.
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    Is This Just What Men Do?
    spiritwalker at 1/16/2019 2:41:10 AM
    sounds like he is not worth the drama and emotional toll.  don't you want stronger man emotional?  do you want to stay on this emotional roller coaster?  find another man. there is plenty out there.    best wishes
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