MV Quick Tip: What Makes a Man Attracted to a Woman

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If you want to spark or regenerate attraction with a man, today’s MarsVenus Quick Tip is for you!

In love, little things make a big difference. In the day-to-day of your relationship(s), it can feel overwhelming to address all the problems or create all your dreams at once. That's why we love to bring you these quick tips. Something accessible you can try on and experiment with. It might be new, it might be a helpful reminder, and it might be totally counterintuitive. We invite you to play along.

Maybe you’re single and dating, maybe you’re in the beginning of a relationship, or maybe you’ve been together for years…

Wherever you’re at, learning how to understand men so that you can generate more attraction is a skill worth developing!

In this post, you’ll discover what brings a man into a relationship, why he chooses one woman instead of another, and how to spark his attraction in a way that feels empowering and fun!

Men and women come to relationships for different reasons.

A man is most interested in a relationship when he feels he has something to offer and share.

When he feels good about himself and his work, he wants to share that with a woman.


The more competent he feels in the presence of a woman:


It’s not a woman’s job to make her partner feel strong and competent if he doesn’t feel that way to begin with.

But she can create the opportunity for a man to feel even more competent, thereby increasing his attraction to her, by using a simple communication tool:

Ask for his advice on something.

That’s it.

No need to shower him with compliments.

No need to pretend to be the helpless princess.

No need to play dumb.

Just ask for his advice on something that you might like a second opinion on or a different perspective.

You don’t have to take his advice, and you don’t have to agree with him for this to work.

But wherever a man gets to feel useful to a woman, he will feel more proud of himself and like her more. A man chooses a woman not because of her list of skills and accomplishments but because of the way she makes him feel.

If he feels proud and of service, he will be more attracted to the woman who can make him feel that way.

When you do ask for his advice, your response is very important.

If you disagree with his advice or don't like it, let him save face. He needs at least to get the message that you appreciate his attempt to help.

That’s all we’re creating here to boost attraction: an opportunity for him to be of service to you, to be useful, and to be seen and appreciated for his efforts.



These are the kind of winning comments you can use with a man when he does his best to deliver on your request:

  • That’s a good idea. I would never have thought of that. Thanks. That’s very helpful.”
  • “That’s a great point. It really helps me finally figure out what to do.”
  • “That makes sense. I’m glad I talked to you. Hearing a different point of view sure helps to clarify things. Thanks.”


Recognizing and appreciating his attempt to help is all it takes to make him feel wonderful, like he matters and can make a difference for you. And it’s that feeling that will make a man choose you over and over again.

The great thing is, when you meet your partner’s needs like this, he will naturally meet more of yours. When he feels trusted to do his best to fulfill your needs and he’s appreciated for his efforts, then he naturally becomes more motivated and empowered to give more of himself to you.

Remember, thriving in love doesn’t have to be complicated. Just keep learning and taking small steps because you deserve a great relationship!


Grow in love,


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