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The top 5 relationship efforts that give you even more in return.


Happy Valentines Day/Week!
Newsfeeds will be full of picture perfect couples – getting engaged, flashing new jewelry, bouquets of flowers, etc. And I think it’s great that these men and women get to bask in the romantic glow of their partner’s loving attention on this special day.

But great relationships can’t survive on Valentine’s Day efforts alone. A great relationship needs to be fed with loving attention every day.

Does that sound exhaustin...

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Want a successful relationship? When your partner let's you down, do this...


It’s easy to find fault. It’s always going to be easy to find fault in our partners. We’re human. We make mistakes. And because we open our hearts to and find ourselves leaning on our partner’s for support, it can be VERY obvious when they screw something up, make a mistake, or let us down.

But what separates a dissatisfying relationship from a fulfilling one is looking past the fault and finding the loving intention. Squinting through your partner’s mistake...

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'When I'm upset, he just makes it worse!' How couples can communicate better and without all the drama.

Dear Lauren,

I don't feel comfortable talking to my boyfriend when I feel sad, because what's the point? He doesn't give me his full attention. And he gets really disturbed that I get angrier the longer he “listens.” It just seems like he doesn't know what to do or what to say. He's stuck in fix it mode.

I don't want our relationship to end, but it bothers him when I'm upset and can't talk about it. I’ve given up and don’t talk an...

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3 easy ways to immediately improve communication with your partner.

Hey Lauren!

Me and my boyfriend have been together for two years. The first year was bliss, the second year was also bliss but with some insecurities thrown in. The one thing I have been insecure about recently is that I feel that my boyfriend and I don't talk enough. Does this mean he isn't right for me? Can we improve our communication? Is he getting bored with me? PLEASE HELP.

-Holly

Hey Holly,

Is it the END?

Right now, you are taking this silent treatment as ...

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The truth behind the most dangerous relationship myth out there.


The most dangerous relationship myth out there
“The secret to a successful relationship is to spend as much time together as possible. Don’t take time or space apart. When it gets challenging, don’t run away. If there’s anger, let it rip. If there’s hurt, don’t hold back. Honesty is the key. Togetherness is the solution to every problem.”
What’s your reaction when I say those words?

It doesn’t sound bad, right? It sound...

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How to support your partner when they have a bad day (It's not what you think!)

Dear Lauren,

When something upsets my boyfriend or when anything upsets me, we feel responsible for each other. For example, if he gets upset about some incident, I feel guilty like it is somehow my fault when in fact I had nothing to do with it! It’s the same with him, if he sees me upset, he feels down. What do we do in this case? Is this normal?

-Carrie

Dear Carrie,

I think it is totally normal! It’s natural for human beings, no matter what their gender, to suf...

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The 3-part inevitable decline of a relationship without me-time



I love spending time with you
…just not ALL the time.

Somewhere along the way, we were taught that, “love means never letting go.”

This is a beautiful sentiment when you’re talking about sticking together as a couple through ups and downs.

This becomes a very detrimental sentiment when we take it as literally never letting our partner’s go and being together all the time.

Being together all the time isn’t love. It’s a...

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Are you a nightmare to be with and you don't even realize it?! Cuz I was.

This blog was originally posted October 24th, 2014.
Are you a nightmare to be with and you don’t even realize it?

Some of the greatest villians of all time have been two faced. Jekyll and Hyde. Norman Bates. Harvey Dent and Two Face.

Why are these characters so consistently compelling?

Because “evil” is surface scary - slasher-film scary - but a person you love and trust turning on you with an evil side?

That’s real drama. That’s horrifyin...

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Head to head with my dad Q and A: The Mars and Venus perspectives

This week my dad (John Gray) and I teamed up with Zoosk to do some quick turn around Q and A.

No, I didn’t just make that crazy word up. If you don’t know about Zoosk, they are the #1 dating app with over 25 million members globally! WOW! You can check them out and learn more about their “behavioral matchmaking” HERE.

In addition to being a great company bringing couples together all over the world, they’ve also got an amazing Facebook community and this w...

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Who should pay for the date?

Dear Lauren,

I have been with my girlfriend for about 6 months now. She seems very traditional in terms of us going out that as the man I always pick up the check. I love doing it but at the same time I would also love if she treated me sometimes too. I don't know what to do, it feels uncomfortable to tell my girlfriend I want her to spend money on me, to wine and dine me. I have subtly hinted but she’s never caught on. What should I do? Should I just accept that I’m the man...

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How to avoid the ultimate boner kill

Dear Lauren,

How is it okay for a woman to express how her feelings got hurt to her insensitive boyfriend but if a man does that to his girlfriend, he is considered weak and needy? That’s a double standard and it’s not fair. I’m calling you out.

-Ted

Well Ted, when you put it like that, I’m ready to grab my pitchfork and protest right along side you. That doesn’t sound fair AT ALL.

However, I think you may be missing 2 key nuanced points in this ...

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Is he into me or not? (I'm getting whiplash here!)

Dear Lauren,

I’ve sort of been seeing this guy for 3 months. Right at the beginning we felt a connection but he told me he was not ready for a relationship. Then he added me on Facebook, invited me to his graduation party and on a ski vacation. We had a great time but sometimes he’d become distant with me. When we came back, he stayed over and we cuddled watching a movie. We’ve been texting since but when I invited him to my birthday party, he suddenly went silent and I ha...

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How one silly game can change your sex life forever.

Dear Lauren,
I’ve heard about how women enjoy “the little things” but frankly, every time I’ve tried doing something for my wife small or otherwise, she barely notices. On top of that she’s always complaining about how overwhelmed and overworked she is and how little I contribute around the house. It’s discouraging. I try to do things but it’s never enough. I’ve given up. How do I make this woman happy?
-Eric

Hi Eric,
I can see how that ...



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