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You're a real catch but here's why women aren't interested.

Dear Lauren,

I’m a good-looking guy, so I know my looks are not the problem. But every time I try talking to a girl, getting close to a girl, or try to take “dating” to the next level, it never works out. I’m a funny guy, fairly wise, very goal oriented, and I’m very social. But the bottom line is, I’m just not very good with “relationships” or dating in general. Can you help give me a clue on how to be more successful with the ladies?

&n...

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Are you a nightmare to be with and you don't even realize it?! Cuz I was.

This blog was originally posted October 24th, 2014.
Are you a nightmare to be with and you don’t even realize it?

Some of the greatest villians of all time have been two faced. Jekyll and Hyde. Norman Bates. Harvey Dent and Two Face.

Why are these characters so consistently compelling?

Because “evil” is surface scary - slasher-film scary - but a person you love and trust turning on you with an evil side?

That’s real drama. That’s horrifyin...

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How to deal with a jealous boyfriend

*This blog was originally posted in February 2014. It has been edited and updated.*

Dear Lauren,
Two months into my relationship, my boyfriend looked through all my text messages while I was sleeping. He found an old one from my ex. Three months later he went through all my emails and found a few from male friends. I have an extremely suspicious boyfriend.I have explained everything to him but he calls me deceitful, a liar, and untrustworthy.

I was outside at a party with a bunch of ...

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Hot and cold? How to tell if he has REAL feelings for you.

Dear Lauren,

I’ve been sorta seeing this guy for awhile. I told him at the beginning that I was not ready for a relationship. His response was fine, that he was willing to wait. So we continue casually talking, having lunch dates, and occasionally hooking up.

Now I feel ready to be in a relationship and I’m waiting for him to actively pursue me with romantic dates, phone calls and flowers. The problem is that I’m not seeing this happening. He’s been very inconsi...

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How to get your ex back (a step-by-step guide)

Dear Lauren,

How can I reconcile withmy ex-boyfriendafterhe broke up with me? He dumped me after being together for 3 years. I’ve given him "space" for 2.5 days with no contact (no more begging or trying to change his mind). Now he sends me an email to see if I'm "ok." Do I respond or stick to some "30 day rule?" What type of contact is okay?

How do I win back my ex? And how long do I wait for him before I move on?

-Brooke


Hey Brooke...

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How to make the first move with confidence

Dear Lauren,
I’ve been developing a friendship with this cute guy for a month, whom I’m totally crushing on. At this point we are stuck in friend mode. How do I cross over? How do I get this guy to kiss me?
-Angela

Hey there Angela,

The Bridge from Friends to Lovers

Great question! People always talk about how great relationships are when they’re founded in friendship. And I totally agree. But what they fail to explain is how you’re supposed to elegantl...

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We had a great date! Why won't he text me back?

Hi Lauren

I went for a coffee with a guy, he said he really liked me & hoped we could meet again. That evening we were texting & he was saying I had lovely eyes, and a lovely personality. Two days later I texted him to say, “Hey, how’s your weekend?” to no reply.

I texted him the next day to say, '”I’m not sure what has gone wrong as we liked each other & agreed to meet again. Can you let me know what the problem is?” No reply.So I to...

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The myth of the honeymoon phase and why this could change EVERYTHING.

Dear Lauren,

My boyfriend and I have been dating less than a year. It’s supposed to be the honeymoon period, but I'm already starting to have issues. He’s a nice gentle guy, but sometimes he can be too easy going, and can't decide what he wants in life. I’m a bit of a control freak, and I freak out whenever he shows his happy-go-lucky side. I can already foresee we will have many problems and issues in the future with us being so opposite. Should I stay or should I...

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How to Make Yourself Irresistible to Men in 3 Simple Steps

Hi Lauren. I’m single but I want to be in a relationship. How do I make a man want me?

-Allie


Hi Allie,

Great question. This is a big question on a lot of single women’s minds. Because sometimes, good ol’ fashioned “be yourself” just doesn’t cut it.

Most of the time the reality of “being yourself” in front of a cute guy means clamming up and acting “cool, ” which includes NOT saying hi.

He can’t fall in...

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How to tell if online Mr. Right is actually real-life Mr. Wrong

Dear Lauren,

A guy I knew over 20 years ago started messaging me on Facebook. In 3 weeks he sent me over 450 messages, all very flirty and about how he had a big thing for me years ago. We finally planned to meet at my birthday party but he cancelled the night before saying, he definitely wanted to meet up some other time. I told him I was coming off Facebook and if he ever wanted to catch up I gave him my mobile number. That was a week ago and I haven't heard anything from him since. I...

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What to do when you're in love with an unavailable man

Dear Lauren,

I’ve been hanging out with this guy for 4 months. He’s a fashion designer and writer so he’s always busy. Everything’s great when we spend time with each other. We do get intimate when we see each other and at other times we just hang out. About a month ago I asked him if we could ever be more than friends and he said he’s not going to answer that. What does that mean?!! I really like him and I don’t wanna lose him. In fact, I might be fallin...

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Got an issue? Here's how to change your partner's behavior.

Dear Lauren,

I’ve been with my man for 3 years and we fight constantly because he’s too flirty with other women. He even stays in touch with ex-girlfriends and continues very personal relationships with them, getting “good night” messages late at night with lots of “hugs and kisses.” He insists they are all just friends. I have never been a jealous partner in past relationships but I have no trust in him. I want him to understand why I don’t like hi...

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Why men never help out (and what to do about it!)

Dear Lauren,

My boyfriend used to live with me and pay rent by working on the house 4 days a month. He got behind by many months and this hurt me. He doesn’t live with me anymore but recently I helped him for 4 weeks to prepare for a craft festival. I got behind with my jobs in that time but he never offered to help. He only offered to catch up with the days of work he owes me. Why cant he just help me with intent from his heart regardless of the days he owes me!? I told him I’m...

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What happens to attraction when your partner's body changes

Dear Lauren,

I’ve been in a deep and intimate relationship for six months. But I’m worried about her decision to lose weight to improve a long standing body image problem. A big reason I’m attracted to this girl is her glorious curvy figure and the feminine spirit that shines with it. Every time I go weak in the knees admiring her gorgeous “junk in the trunk.” I wonder if I’ll be able to feel the same if she assumes a hard and toned physique? Thinking abo...

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The wrong way to have sex!

Hi Lauren,

After a year of waiting to see if my ex boyfriend might change his mind about getting back together, I now know that he definitely does not want to be in a relationship with me again. He contacted me out of the blue and asked to meet for sex. I still love him, so I agreed. It was wonderful, but short. Two weeks later, he asked to see me again for sex. I obliged, convinced that he secretly still loved me. The problem is that I can’t just have sex, I need more but he told me ...

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Head to head with my dad Q and A: The Mars and Venus perspectives

This week my dad (John Gray) and I teamed up with Zoosk to do some quick turn around Q and A.

No, I didn’t just make that crazy word up. If you don’t know about Zoosk, they are the #1 dating app with over 25 million members globally! WOW! You can check them out and learn more about their “behavioral matchmaking” HERE.

In addition to being a great company bringing couples together all over the world, they’ve also got an amazing Facebook community and this w...

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How to share insecurities with your partner.

Dear Lauren,

I asked my boyfriend (of two months) if his ex ever calls and asks him to reconcile. I admitted that it may have been somewhat dumb. He got upset. He said I asked him that already and it seems like I don’t trust him. He also said that if she does he will tell me. Since then he’s been quite distant. I am trying to be patient but if he wants this relationship, he should just accept my apology, forgive me and move on. It’s been two days now and it hurts to be thi...

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Are you too clingy?

Dear Lauren,

I think I might be one of those “clingy” guys and I definitely don’t want to turn anyone off. I am in a relationship and I am always doing things for her, buying her flowers, stuff, toys, etc. I don’t get moody or upset when she goes out with her girlfriends or is away on business. I do get upset when we are both in town and I don’t get to see her except maybe once a week. I have been waiting for her to ask to see me, is that the wrong thing to do?...

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Why men run from intimacy and commitment

Dear Lauren,
I’ve known aclose guy friend for over 20 years. We’ve been dating for three months. Things have been wonderful. He pursues me and I pace things. He called, emailed, or texted me daily just to keep in touch.Two weeks ago he told me he loved me and that he has cared for me for years.And then six days ago he disappeared!

All communication stopped. I’m trying hard not to take this personally. How can I tell him thatI need him to communicate to me when he feels t...

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I've fallen in love with my best friend. Should I risk everything and tell her?

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I’ve grown very close to one of my best friends. We talk for at least 2 hours everyday on the phone. But, she has a boyfriend. I know th...



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