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The 3-part inevitable decline of a relationship without me-time



I love spending time with you
…just not ALL the time.

Somewhere along the way, we were taught that, “love means never letting go.”

This is a beautiful sentiment when you’re talking about sticking together as a couple through ups and downs.

This becomes a very detrimental sentiment when we take it as literally never letting our partner’s go and being together all the time.

Being together all the time isn’t love. It’s a...

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Do you ever feel needy? Your problem might be the solution.

Dear Lauren,

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 ½ years. Everything is great until he pulls away, he either wants to be alone or he wants to spend time with his friends. Every time he pulls away, I get super needy. I tell him I need him to stay home, I need him to listen to me, I need his attention.

I know I should let him to go out and be a “cool” girlfriend but I can’t help it. I just go into demanding crying mode and I need him to care more. He gets...

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Are you a nightmare to be with and you don't even realize it?! Cuz I was.

This blog was originally posted October 24th, 2014.
Are you a nightmare to be with and you don’t even realize it?

Some of the greatest villians of all time have been two faced. Jekyll and Hyde. Norman Bates. Harvey Dent and Two Face.

Why are these characters so consistently compelling?

Because “evil” is surface scary - slasher-film scary - but a person you love and trust turning on you with an evil side?

That’s real drama. That’s horrifyin...

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How to get your ex back (a step-by-step guide)

Dear Lauren,

How can I reconcile withmy ex-boyfriendafterhe broke up with me? He dumped me after being together for 3 years. I’ve given him "space" for 2.5 days with no contact (no more begging or trying to change his mind). Now he sends me an email to see if I'm "ok." Do I respond or stick to some "30 day rule?" What type of contact is okay?

How do I win back my ex? And how long do I wait for him before I move on?

-Brooke


Hey Brooke...

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10 things I do daily to keep my relationship bulletproof.

Valentine's Day shouldn't be the ONE day a year
you see or make an effort toward your relationship.
Valentine's Day, as I see it, is a day to celebrate and acknowledge the solid, loving, fun, passionate and committed relationship you've thoughtfully nurtured and built over
the rest of the year.

Which is why I'm sharing with you today,
The 10 things I do daily to keep my relationship bulletproof.

Because Grand Gestures are GREAT!
But real ...

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Are you his number one priority or is someone else?

Dear Lauren,
My boyfriend and I been in a relationship for 9 months and see each other every weekend. The problem is that sometimes when we get an opportunity to get together on a weeknight he almost always has plans with the “guys” and blows me off. I feel like I’m second choice to his buddies and he doesn’t understand why I feel this way. Am I being unreasonable or is he?
-Katy

Hi Katy,

This particular argument, “Are friends more important than the s...

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Why men fight dirty in arguments (and how to take the high road to love!)

Dear Lauren,

I made a mistake-I yelled at my husband to the point that he retreated into his cave. I followed him in there and he said, “Leave me alone!” but I kept pushing. He said some really hurtful things like he doesn’t think our relationship is working and that he doesn’t want to have kids with me because he doesn’t think I’d be a good mother. I left him a note that I’d be back in two weeks and went to my parent’s house. I thought he nee...

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Got an issue? Here's how to change your partner's behavior.

Dear Lauren,

I’ve been with my man for 3 years and we fight constantly because he’s too flirty with other women. He even stays in touch with ex-girlfriends and continues very personal relationships with them, getting “good night” messages late at night with lots of “hugs and kisses.” He insists they are all just friends. I have never been a jealous partner in past relationships but I have no trust in him. I want him to understand why I don’t like hi...

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Why men never help out (and what to do about it!)

Dear Lauren,

My boyfriend used to live with me and pay rent by working on the house 4 days a month. He got behind by many months and this hurt me. He doesn’t live with me anymore but recently I helped him for 4 weeks to prepare for a craft festival. I got behind with my jobs in that time but he never offered to help. He only offered to catch up with the days of work he owes me. Why cant he just help me with intent from his heart regardless of the days he owes me!? I told him I’m...

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What happens to attraction when your partner's body changes

Dear Lauren,

I’ve been in a deep and intimate relationship for six months. But I’m worried about her decision to lose weight to improve a long standing body image problem. A big reason I’m attracted to this girl is her glorious curvy figure and the feminine spirit that shines with it. Every time I go weak in the knees admiring her gorgeous “junk in the trunk.” I wonder if I’ll be able to feel the same if she assumes a hard and toned physique? Thinking abo...

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The wrong way to have sex!

Hi Lauren,

After a year of waiting to see if my ex boyfriend might change his mind about getting back together, I now know that he definitely does not want to be in a relationship with me again. He contacted me out of the blue and asked to meet for sex. I still love him, so I agreed. It was wonderful, but short. Two weeks later, he asked to see me again for sex. I obliged, convinced that he secretly still loved me. The problem is that I can’t just have sex, I need more but he told me ...

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12 saucy (and realistic) ways to keep the passion alive.

Dear Lauren,
My fiancé and I are getting married soon, and I want to keep the passion in the bedroom alive. Can you give me some tips on how to do this as lately I feel like my libido has dropped and I feel like I'm not giving him enough intimacy?
-Lana


Hi Lana,

Don’t feel bad. Lots of women have a hard time keeping up with their sweeties. Men usually have higher libidos than women because they have more testosterone. Testosterone is the "let's make sex...

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How to share insecurities with your partner.

Dear Lauren,

I asked my boyfriend (of two months) if his ex ever calls and asks him to reconcile. I admitted that it may have been somewhat dumb. He got upset. He said I asked him that already and it seems like I don’t trust him. He also said that if she does he will tell me. Since then he’s been quite distant. I am trying to be patient but if he wants this relationship, he should just accept my apology, forgive me and move on. It’s been two days now and it hurts to be thi...

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His love of porn is coming between us.

Dear Lauren,

I’m so confused. I’m 48 years old and have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. Some of his female friends send him racy emails and some with nudity. He doesn't tell them to stop. The fact that naked women visuals excite him turns me off. I’m certainly not a prude, I’m very sexual but that is reserved for the one I love. If he wants to make love to me I’ll be wondering if he’s thinking about me or someone else. I’m feeling old and th...

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Are you too clingy?

Dear Lauren,

I think I might be one of those “clingy” guys and I definitely don’t want to turn anyone off. I am in a relationship and I am always doing things for her, buying her flowers, stuff, toys, etc. I don’t get moody or upset when she goes out with her girlfriends or is away on business. I do get upset when we are both in town and I don’t get to see her except maybe once a week. I have been waiting for her to ask to see me, is that the wrong thing to do?...

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The WRONG way to spice up a relationship

Hi Lauren

I want to have an affair with my boss who lives in another country. We immediately connected and have been emailing steamy messages back and forth but have never met up. He is coming into town in a few weeks and even after months of his hot emails, telling me all he wanted was to be with me, he wasn't the one to tell me of his trip. I don't know what to think, what to say, or what to do? Other than the fear of the consequences of a romance gone wrong in the workplace, what...

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Why men run from intimacy and commitment

Dear Lauren,
I’ve known aclose guy friend for over 20 years. We’ve been dating for three months. Things have been wonderful. He pursues me and I pace things. He called, emailed, or texted me daily just to keep in touch.Two weeks ago he told me he loved me and that he has cared for me for years.And then six days ago he disappeared!

All communication stopped. I’m trying hard not to take this personally. How can I tell him thatI need him to communicate to me when he feels t...

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I've fallen in love with my best friend. Should I risk everything and tell her?

(function(d, s, id) { var js, fjs = d.getElementsByTagName(s); if (d.getElementById(id)) return; js = d.createElement(s); js.id = id; js.src = "//connect.facebook.net/en_US/all.js#xfbml=1&appId=822764381082597"; fjs.parentNode.insertBefore(js, fjs); }(document, 'script', 'facebook-jssdk'));Dear Lauren,
I’ve grown very close to one of my best friends. We talk for at least 2 hours everyday on the phone. But, she has a boyfriend. I know th...

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Am I too picky? How to tell if it's a deal-breaker or just a bump in the road to love.

Hi Lauren,

I've been single and dating for the last 3 years and I’ve found it almost impossible to meet a man that meets even the minimum criteria of having a good job, not living with his parent's, and wanting a relationship.

I finally found a really great guy and we’ve been together for a month. I have a list of what I want in a guy and he meets almost all of the criteria, except for one huge thing. He hates cats and gives me crap about being vegetarian all the ti...

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Here's to finally getting the love you deserve in 2014! (a simple 3-step guide)

It’s okay to want more

Sometimes we’ve gone so long without the thing we want THE MOST that it’s scary to connect with our desire for it. In most cases, across gender, culture, and creed, the thing we want the most is LOVE. As John Gray says, “The major cause of human dissatisfaction and frustration is the absence of love.”

And as another John said, “Love is all you need.” ;-)

But instead of doing the work to create more love, our new year...



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