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The 3-part inevitable decline of a relationship without me-time

I love spending time with you
…just not ALL the time.

Somewhere along the way, we were taught that, “love means never letting go.”

This is a beautiful sentiment when you’re talking about sticking together as a couple through ups and downs.

This becomes a very detrimental sentiment when we take it as literally never letting our partner’s go and being together all the time.

Being together all the time isn’t love. It’s a...

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He cheated on me. How can I move on and make this relationship work?

The blog was originally posted in August 2013 as “How to turn a cheater into a loyal and monogamous partner.” The video is vintage Ask Lauren and the blog itself has been edited and updated.

Hi Lauren,

I’ve been married for 25 years. In the past 15 years my husband has had two affairs. He says he is glad I saved our marriage and that he wants to make this work, but how do I know his words and feelings are genuine? How do I know that he truly loves me and that he&...

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Got an issue? Here's how to change your partner's behavior.

Dear Lauren,

I’ve been with my man for 3 years and we fight constantly because he’s too flirty with other women. He even stays in touch with ex-girlfriends and continues very personal relationships with them, getting “good night” messages late at night with lots of “hugs and kisses.” He insists they are all just friends. I have never been a jealous partner in past relationships but I have no trust in him. I want him to understand why I don’t like hi...

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Why men never help out (and what to do about it!)

Dear Lauren,

My boyfriend used to live with me and pay rent by working on the house 4 days a month. He got behind by many months and this hurt me. He doesn’t live with me anymore but recently I helped him for 4 weeks to prepare for a craft festival. I got behind with my jobs in that time but he never offered to help. He only offered to catch up with the days of work he owes me. Why cant he just help me with intent from his heart regardless of the days he owes me!? I told him I’m...

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My Husband Cheated On Me. Will I Feel Better If I Cheat On Him?

Hi John -

My husband of eight years was unfaithful and I feel that cheating on him will make me feel better. How would this affect the relationship? Thank you in advance.

I thank God for your work,


Hi Betzaida,

Revenge is never a good choice when you have been hurt by someone. Two wrongs don't make one right. Likewise, an eye for an eye and you both lose your sight.

Revenge, or getting even, is a primitive form of communication. You really should ele...

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The WRONG way to spice up a relationship

Hi Lauren

I want to have an affair with my boss who lives in another country. We immediately connected and have been emailing steamy messages back and forth but have never met up. He is coming into town in a few weeks and even after months of his hot emails, telling me all he wanted was to be with me, he wasn't the one to tell me of his trip. I don't know what to think, what to say, or what to do? Other than the fear of the consequences of a romance gone wrong in the workplace, what...

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Now that we live together, we don't get along

Hello Lauren,

I have been living with my boyfriend for 3 months and we have been together for 2 years. Lately we’ve been bickering more often and our communication seems to shut down. He pulls away and I get sad. It’s hard when this happens because we used to never be like this. Yesterday he said he needed space from me. He said he's mad he needs to tell me where he is, and I expressed it makes me feel safe to know. I am scared he is pulling away. How can I handle this witho...


How to keep intimacy alive in the day-to-day grind

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We’re busy all the time.

All of us.

All the time.

We have responsibilities coming out of our asses!

So, so...

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