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Initiating sex: who's job is it really?

Dear Lauren,

Within the couple, who is supposed to initiate sex?

-Charles


Hi Charles,

Who initiates sex and Why

Both. Either. Everyone.

I’m going to answer your question more specifically but I want to make it very clear that this is not a one-size-fits-all response.

It’s in trying to make sex a one-size-fit’s-all concept that causes so much of the confusion, misunderstanding, shame and frustration between couples in the bedroom.

Havin...

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What happens to attraction when your partner's body changes

Dear Lauren,

I’ve been in a deep and intimate relationship for six months. But I’m worried about her decision to lose weight to improve a long standing body image problem. A big reason I’m attracted to this girl is her glorious curvy figure and the feminine spirit that shines with it. Every time I go weak in the knees admiring her gorgeous “junk in the trunk.” I wonder if I’ll be able to feel the same if she assumes a hard and toned physique? Thinking abo...

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The wrong way to have sex!

Hi Lauren,

After a year of waiting to see if my ex boyfriend might change his mind about getting back together, I now know that he definitely does not want to be in a relationship with me again. He contacted me out of the blue and asked to meet for sex. I still love him, so I agreed. It was wonderful, but short. Two weeks later, he asked to see me again for sex. I obliged, convinced that he secretly still loved me. The problem is that I can’t just have sex, I need more but he told me ...

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12 saucy (and realistic) ways to keep the passion alive.

Dear Lauren,
My fiancé and I are getting married soon, and I want to keep the passion in the bedroom alive. Can you give me some tips on how to do this as lately I feel like my libido has dropped and I feel like I'm not giving him enough intimacy?
-Lana


Hi Lana,

Don’t feel bad. Lots of women have a hard time keeping up with their sweeties. Men usually have higher libidos than women because they have more testosterone. Testosterone is the "let's make sex...

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How to get over sexual insecurities in 3 easy steps

Dear Lauren,
I’d love to participate in intimate moments with my special guy. However, I am inexperienced (he knows this) and my fear of pain, insecure feelings, and poor body image create confusion between us. To him I am an immature girl who simply does not want to have sex with him and he ends up sending me out of the room. Help me dispel this cloud of confusion and advise on how I can communicate my thoughts without him having to be defensive.
-Alice

Dear Alice,

This is p...

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How slowing down could speed up your search for true love

Dear Lauren,
I’d love to participate in intimate moments with my special guy. However, I am inexperienced (he knows this) and my fear of pain, insecure feelings, and poor body image create confusion between us. To him I am an immature girl who simply does not want to have sex with him and he ends up sending me out of the room. Help me dispel this cloud of confusion and advise on how I can communicate my thoughts without him having to be defensive.
-Alice

Dear Alice,

Great que...

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How casual sex can kill your chances at true love

Dear Lauren,

I met this guy (a professional surfer!) over vacation. Things got a little crazy and we ended up sleeping with each other that night. Then we met up at the bar the next night and ended up in bed again. The next morning he said, "It was very nice meeting you, I'll call you when I come to your hometown next month." He was passing through for a surfing tournament. The next month rolled by and I sent him a text, but nothing back! Did I do something wrong? How do I rea...

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3 sure-fire ways to fully enjoy intimacy

Hi Lauren,

I am 33 years old and I’ve never had an orgasm during intercourse. What do I need to do to have one? Do I have a disability down there?

-Maria


Hi Maria,

The world has been lying to you

You do NOT have a disability.

Surprise! Only 30% of women orgasm from stimulation to their G-spot alone.

You wouldn't know the number was that low based on T.V., movies and porn because the women we see there ALWAYS orgasm from sex.

Unfortunately, med...

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Tired of missionary? A step by step guide to coaxing more variety in the bedroom

Dear Lauren,
I married last January and when I have sex with my wife she only wants to do one position and refuses to shift to any other position. I have tried many times but she is adamant. We have similar height and weight and both of us do not have any physical problems. How can I convince her to have sex in more positions?
-Dean

Hi Dean,

I know a lot of men will relate to this question. This particular battle of the sexes is as common as the “you didn’t put the toil...

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Is it just sex or does he genuinely care for me?

Dear Lauren,
I met a guy online who invited me to go sailing and have dinner on his boat. I was surprised to find he was noticeably shorter and older than he stated in his profile. I figured I’d stick it out anyway. After dinner we made love in the cabin. I’m not someone who sleeps with a man on the first date but I was swept away and felt helpless to stop. He took me sailing two more times that month, 8-9 hours of talking, having fun and making love. I really felt connected to him...



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