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Why men cock block your feelings instead of listening.

Hi Lauren,

I need your help. It seems like every time I try to bring something up about our relationship and express my honest feelings, it turns into a fight. Specifically, I open up, he gets irritated and says “drop it.” I’m not one to be bulldozed over so I keep talking. I should be allowed to express to myself to my own boyfriend. He just keeps saying, “drop it” and eventually leaves the room and slams the door.

I’m trying to make this relationsh...

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How To Talk To A Man So He Will Listen

Today, we have b every person has a masculine sidic selves.

A woman wants to have the freedoine side and her masculine side when she wants and a man wants to express his masculine side and his feminine side when he wants. However, this can often throw a relalance.

Luckily, women have the power ty by doing one of the things that is more feminine than anything: sharing. When a woman can open up to a man who listens with respect, and oxytocin, which helps lower her stress levels and bring...

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Want a successful relationship? When your partner let's you down, do this...


It’s easy to find fault. It’s always going to be easy to find fault in our partners. We’re human. We make mistakes. And because we open our hearts to and find ourselves leaning on our partner’s for support, it can be VERY obvious when they screw something up, make a mistake, or let us down.

But what separates a dissatisfying relationship from a fulfilling one is looking past the fault and finding the loving intention. Squinting through your partner’s mistake...

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'When I'm upset, he just makes it worse!' How couples can communicate better and without all the drama.

Dear Lauren,

I don't feel comfortable talking to my boyfriend when I feel sad, because what's the point? He doesn't give me his full attention. And he gets really disturbed that I get angrier the longer he “listens.” It just seems like he doesn't know what to do or what to say. He's stuck in fix it mode.

I don't want our relationship to end, but it bothers him when I'm upset and can't talk about it. I’ve given up and don’t talk an...

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The surprising truth about dating a selfish man (or a series of selfish men)

Hi Lauren! Thank you so much for all that you do. I’ve learned so much. My question is, what do you do if you’re dating a narcissist? Or in my case, a series of narcissists? It seems like every relationship I start, it’s all about what HE wants to do, or what HE wants to talk about, which is usually himself. I know I deserve more than that. What’s your advice when you’re dating a selfish man?

-Rena


Hi Rena,

Great question. In this blog I’m go...

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3 easy ways to immediately improve communication with your partner.

Hey Lauren!

Me and my boyfriend have been together for two years. The first year was bliss, the second year was also bliss but with some insecurities thrown in. The one thing I have been insecure about recently is that I feel that my boyfriend and I don't talk enough. Does this mean he isn't right for me? Can we improve our communication? Is he getting bored with me? PLEASE HELP.

-Holly

Hey Holly,

Is it the END?

Right now, you are taking this silent treatment as ...

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Tongkat Ali Helps Boost Testosterone Naturally


The candles are lit and some romantic music is playing, but instead of fireworks in the bedroom, you find frustration. And it’s not because of the music. When couples experience a lack of libido or sexual dysfunction in the bedroom, it can create a tremendous amount of stress in an otherwise healthy relationship.

Some men between the ages of 40 and 55 can begin to have trouble getting an erection when the moment is otherwise perfect. This is a sign of declining testosterone levels....

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Why men pull away after sex (and what you can do about it!)

Hi Lauren,

I’m friends with this guy and we really get along. Last week we somehow ended up in bed together. It felt comfortable and natural. What’s bothering me now is that he’s been acting differently towards me ever since. He used to text me all the time and now he never texts me unless I text him first. He seems like he isn’t interested in maintaining our relationship anymore and I’m not sure why. We had fun. Why is he acting so different?

-Sonia

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Stumped at being dumped? The real reason you're single.

Dear Lauren,

My ex-girlfriend said that she did not love me nor was she attracted to me. But we were together for six months! She made the first move on our first date, she would always initiate PDA's: kissing, touching, even arousing me in cabs, restaurants, the park... She expressed interest in sex but we never went through with it. But tell me, how is it that you can get so close to someone physically and claim to have neither attraction nor feelings? I am still nursing my broken hea...

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The most common mistakes women make when trying to get a guy to commit

Dear Lauren,

My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. He tells me he loves me like he’s never loved any girl, but he just can’t commit and he doesn’t know why. It’s so confusing…for both of us!

I’m very clingy, a bit insecure too, and sometimes I check his phone or try to mother him, but he says that’s not the problem. That the problem is him, and he doesn’t know when he’ll get over it. I tried ultimatums but they don&r...

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The truth behind the most dangerous relationship myth out there.


The most dangerous relationship myth out there
“The secret to a successful relationship is to spend as much time together as possible. Don’t take time or space apart. When it gets challenging, don’t run away. If there’s anger, let it rip. If there’s hurt, don’t hold back. Honesty is the key. Togetherness is the solution to every problem.”
What’s your reaction when I say those words?

It doesn’t sound bad, right? It sound...

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How to support your partner when they have a bad day (It's not what you think!)

Dear Lauren,

When something upsets my boyfriend or when anything upsets me, we feel responsible for each other. For example, if he gets upset about some incident, I feel guilty like it is somehow my fault when in fact I had nothing to do with it! It’s the same with him, if he sees me upset, he feels down. What do we do in this case? Is this normal?

-Carrie

Dear Carrie,

I think it is totally normal! It’s natural for human beings, no matter what their gender, to suf...

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How to say 'I love you' first (without freaking out your partner)

Dear Lauren,

So I told my boyfriend I loved him for the first time and he got really weird after that. Why does he think that saying I love you means "Lets get married" and a major commitment? Not simply, I love you, which is how I meant it.

-Chiara

Asking the RIGHT question

Hi Chiara! Great question.In fact, I love it! You know why?

Most people ask the question, “When should you say I love you in a relationship?” Or even, “Who should say I lo...

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How to get rid of his 'bad habits' and live together in bliss.

Dear Lauren,

I love your blogs. They’ve helped me so much. My question is: my boyfriend moved in with me about two months ago. Both of us have been living on our own for more than 10 years, and for me, I get upset when I see his bad-living-together habits creeping into my space. How do I keep it at a minimum without making living with me miserable for him? Thank you Lauren for your advice!! Xxoo.

- Natasha

Hi Natasha!

Great question. I remember when I moved in with my p...

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Your guide to relationships without 'labels'

Hey Lauren,

I've been involved with someone for about 6 months and when I say involved we are not boyfriend/girlfriend but we spend a good amount of time together and we are having sex. She's a full time student and doesn’t have a lot of free time. I'm just working right now so I have more free time than her. Lately, with finals coming up and school being crucial right now, I haven't seen her in almost 3 weeks. I'm fine with time apart, totally fine, as long as I k...

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Why men don't give reassurance (and how to get some in 3 easy steps!)

Dear Lauren,

When my boyfriend and I get into a fight he remains withdrawn for the rest of the day and isn’t as affectionate as he usually is. I can’t help but worry I’ve ruined things and he’s having doubts about us.

I feel desperate for reassurance that we’ll be okay.I ask him to say something nice to make me feel better. He tells me he loves me and we’ll be fine, but can I trust that what he’s saying is truly how he feels? He still seems so ...

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What 'Leave me alone' ACTUALLY means in a relationship.


“Leave me alone!” doesn’t mean
what you think it means.
When it comes to a man, the words “Leave me alone,” mean one thing only. Leave him the heck alone or face the fire-breathing dragon.

No mystery.

No intrigue.

No dance steps.

It means exactly what it says.

But when it comes to a woman, this phrase is slightly more nuanced and can mean more than one thing.

(It’s not fair but it’s true.)

This leaves most...

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Staying Happy With A Healthy Microbiome


What is ome?

The humaes. It varies from person to person based on diet, health history, geographic location, and even ancestry.

This human microbiome consists of mord cared for to stay healthy. In fact, For every one of your cells, there are 10 microbial cells living on or inside your body, helping your bounctions.

Less than ten years ago, the species ofovered as indigenous cohabitants of the human body numbered only 200. Now researchers estimate that more than biome. They are ...

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Why Valentine's Day is just like going to the Dentist.


Why is Valentine’s Day like going to the Dentist? Why would I imply such a detestable thing when I’m a lover of love and I teach relationships for a living?

Great questions.

I have NOTHING against Valentine’s Day. I LOVE Valentine's Day! But maybe not for the reasons you think. I don’t love Valentine’s Day because it’s a day where we practice romance and buy things for each other and say, “I love you.”

I love Valentine's D...

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The 3-part inevitable decline of a relationship without me-time



I love spending time with you
…just not ALL the time.

Somewhere along the way, we were taught that, “love means never letting go.”

This is a beautiful sentiment when you’re talking about sticking together as a couple through ups and downs.

This becomes a very detrimental sentiment when we take it as literally never letting our partner’s go and being together all the time.

Being together all the time isn’t love. It’s a...



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